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Celebration of Life

by Vanessa De Jesus Guzman
September 26th 2021

The aspect of mindfulness isn’t just about slowing down and stilling the mind. It’s about getting to know yourself on a deeper and more personal level. The more you take the time to see life positi... More

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So if you'd like to learn more, feel free to swipe up to the show notes and you can find the link there. So this week I really want to spend some time talking about celebrating the life that you have and not the life that you want to have. Not the life that you're still wishing for. But the life that you have in this very moment. And one of the reasons why I wanted to do this topic is because it's my birthday month. So I am in celebration mode. But just recently I was walking along the Hudson river as you may know. I live very close to new york city. So I was walking along the Hudson river and just looking the stars at night, walking around with my husband, my son and my puppy. And in that very moment I was taking in the smell from the river as it's not always fantastic. But I was taking in the smell I was taking in the light autumn breeze.

I was taking in the stars up above which we can't see too many because of all the phenomenal lights right from the city so close that you can touch it. And at that moment I thought to myself, everything I ever wished for I have and that doesn't mean that I have the most perfect life and that doesn't mean that I am not working towards things that I still want to achieve. But in that very moment things were perfect. And I ask you, how often do we have those thoughts? How often can we truly say what a perfect moment or I wish I can, you know, hold this moment in my mind forever and really when we think about it as humans and yes, now we have a much longer life span than we used to, you know, centuries ago. But when we really think about it, sometimes we spend more time talking about the negative and complaining and venting than we do in truly taking in the moment that maybe it's not a graduation or a celebration or a party of some sorts, but just a small moments that seems so insignificant.

But that means so very much so. We all know people who I feel bad for the name to be sometimes because we call them Debbie Downers or negative nancy's, I'm sure w and nancy's out, they're wonderful people. So I'm sorry that your names are used in this way. But we all know some folks that sometimes fit into this box, so to speak, where the event and they complain and there's always a lot of negativity to say. And this isn't to say that we can't vent or complain. That's very important sometimes to get things off of your chest. But this is to say that while we do that, right? I call it a big dump, while we dump those feelings out. We then want to put as much effort in into thinking for the positives. I like to call it the at least phrases or the silver linings. Right? So this bad thing happens, but at least and fill in the blank because when we think more positively we find more positive things out there and when we take the time to celebrate more things than more celebrations come into our lives, it's so easy to get caught up on the bills and the to do less and the things that we have to do not only in our personal lives, but then also in our work lives.

And again, there's nothing wrong with this matter of thinking, but we just have to make sure that we're able to balance it out. We've talked about before how in the United States specifically, we have a real hustle mentality when compared to other countries and other countries take their siestas. Other countries have weeks upon weeks of paid vacation time, we're here in the United States, We don't quite have that. And sometimes when that's not readily available to us, then we have to make the most of what we have and make and create those spaces ourselves. Not only just because but truly for our mental well being, that's part of mental wellness and just as we take care of our bodies physically, it's so very important to take care of our bodies mentally as well so that we can be the best versions of ourselves during the short time that we have on this earth.

And maybe I have these thoughts because I'm getting older and as we see older, older, older like 80s 90's pass away. We always get sad because it's always sad to see somebody leave this earth in physical form. But when we see people pass away at a much younger age, that's when it kind of settles in of, wow, you know, they maybe didn't even get to live the second half of their life and now they no longer have the opportunity to do so. And I will say that being a type a being a perfectionist, having a super strong work ethic. I always see things from the aspect of what else is there to do and how can I improve something? What's the next thing I want to achieve or how can I make life better for somebody else, How can I make something simpler for others. And while yes, sex is very admirable if I would say, and I do like to function in that way. We do. Want to also think about why is it that we're always working? Because it can be commended of course to work and to retire until you're 60, years old.

But do we really have to wait until we're 60 or 65 to retire? I mean according to some state pensions, we do. But is that the age that we should really start living our life? Is that the age where we should start to travel? Is that the age where we can start enjoying things that we couldn't because we were working or raising our families or building an empire. Or can we make space to do those things throughout our lifespan and not just towards the end because we deserve to have celebrations in our lives. We deserve to be celebrated and we deserve to relax just as hard as we work. And it's important to keep in mind that the aspect of mindfulness isn't just stilling the mind or isn't just sitting still in a quiet place and trying to think of nothing. The aspects of mindfulness is really creating the space to get to know yourself better.

Which is why when describing what mindfulness is. I always say, the phrase not only paying attention to the right here and right now, but I always include the phrase with kindness and with curiosity because when we make the space we are not only kinder to others, but we can be kinder to ourselves and we create the space for curiosity, to see what else is there out there. What else can we offer to all the people out there? And that is a big part of mindfulness because if we're always moving and doing and hustling and bustling, then we don't have that quiet time in that space to think, well what do I want to do next? What do I want to work toward? Am I really happy where I am and what can I do next? And that's something that the practice of mindfulness can offer. So I encourage you if there's something that you haven't done, if there's something that you're putting off, if there's something that you're thinking you want to do but then are clouded with the idea of I shouldn't do it yet or I don't deserve to do that yet or that would be a big celebration and I'm not there yet.

First kudos for using the word yet and knowing that you will get there someday, but wipe those celebrations off. Do those things right now. Today for tomorrow is not guaranteed. And regardless of state of health, regardless of where you thought your life would be and where you are right now, you deserve all good things on this earth and if they don't come so naturally create the space and make the space to find them and then to celebrate others, to celebrate life and to celebrate yourself, celebrate the amazing talent that you possess, celebrate all you bring onto this earth and not just on special occasions, but take many celebrations every single day you woke up, celebrate it, you fix your bed or didn't celebrate it, you're able to get out of bed, you walk the dog celebration, you made dinner, another celebration.

All of these many things throughout the day are things that we do conquer and deserve to be celebrated and the more that you do that when you lay your head back on your pillow at night, you'll see how full your heart can still feel, remember you deserve it. Not only on your birthday month, not only for a special occasion, but each and every day. So right now, regardless of where you are or what you're doing, breathe in the way that's most comfortable to you and I'd like for you to take a look around the space that you're in in this very moment. Take in the sights, the smells, the colors and after, taking everything in. think to yourself at least 3-5 positive things that you see perhaps from your car as you're listening to this in traffic, maybe from your sink as you're washing dishes or preparing dinner or even on your walk.

Sometimes our minds are so prime to look for negatives that we really have to put effort forth and look for the positive things. So take this moment, find 3-5 positive things and I hope that it's able to bring a smile to your face and as you look at these positive things and take in any positive adventure, sights or smells so that you come across. No, that with every breath in the positivity you take, you can always put positive back out there into the world with your smile, with your kind heart, with your actions and with just you being, have a great week, I hope you enjoyed this week's show. It would mean a ton if you took this moment to review the free to be mindful podcasts on the platform, you catch your favorite shows that quick and easy act, lets me know what you enjoy and it helps others find the podcast too.

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Celebration of Life
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