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How do you overcome limiting beliefs?

by Hypnosis Works!
September 2nd 2021
Richard Morris has written a book called "Hit Refresh Now" and it is a guide to help you overcome your limiting beliefs. In this episode, part 1 of a 2 part series, I chat to him about the process of ... More
hypnosis works transforming the mind. Hi there, I'm Hendrick baird a practicing non medical hypnotherapist currently based in Pretoria South Africa. I'm always curious to learn more about hypnosis. And so I thought what better way to learn than to chat with other hypno therapists to gain some insights into what they do and how they work. So join me as we explore the fascinating world of the mind and of hypnosis in today's episode, which is part one of two parts, I chat to Richard Morris.

Now, Richard has written a book about limiting beliefs, so that's what our interview is about today. What was the aim of it? First of all, why why did you write? Um two reasons. One reason is I like helping people. A second being. I wanted to raise my brand. You know, I'm busy trying to build a brand. I want to change the website into a blog. Uh and um oh in my hypnotherapy practice, I work with a lot of sports people and I want to broaden that to more international sports people as well. I've worked with karate and judo and golfers, tennis players, swimmers, athletes. Um I actually organized a couple of sessions for the South African karate team when they were on a camp and I have some of the more senior guys that come and see me privately. Uh if you look at the references on the website, there's one lady that I worked with and she's a silver medalist at the World Championships on I think three occasions and I think she got a bronze at the commonwealth Games.

So no, it's quite, quite accomplished people. And the thing I like about them is that they're quite easy to work with. So that's my, although I'm uh if you like, I have a general practice as far as hypnotherapy goes, I like to work with the sports sports people because that's my background as well. You know, I never achieved the standards that they did, but my daughter is a double prettier, She's a prettier for karate and for Kendra and you know, I have obviously over the years, I've been coaching and helping her and it just spread from that, but the book is not not specifically aimed at sports people, I mean, it's a kind of a life guide, isn't it? When people, when people run into difficulties, you know, once you go to the root cause of it, it's generally the same thing. It's a feeling of not being enough and they feel that they're not enough because of the pre programming and the limiting beliefs that they have adopted over the years. One of the things that was quite surprising when I was starting out was that I was working with a lady, she's one of the top karate athletes in, as she in the world and I said to her, but what's the problem?

Uh huh, You know what, why, how can I help you? And she said, you know what, every time I go onto the floor I have this fear that are not up to the same standard as everybody else and what I explained to her is that when you're at that level, it's not the standard of your of your function in the sport, is your mental attitude towards it, these techniques that are used to uh unleash the inner beast if you like, especially in those types of sports, uh and I said, look, I can't make you better at karate, But I can turn you into a 95% winner if you're competing with people that are your peers, you know, you have to work on your karate technique and in improving your karate or your boxing or you're swimming or your goal for anything like that. I had a a youngster, he wanted, he was a very good golfer and he wanted to turn professional and he he contacted me and I made an appointment, he came to see me And what would happen was normally they work on three day tournaments with golf.

So the first day in the second day he would be way out in the lead on the final day, The old doubts would start to surface and obviously it affects your performance and he just slipped down the leader board. So I had a two hour session with him and you know, 11 of the most more important things for me is when somebody comes to see me, I don't want them to develop a dependency on me, I don't want to be a crutch for anybody. So, you know, whether I, I think it or not, They'll say when must are coming out, so you don't need to come see me again because as far as, I'm concerned, you, 100%. if you would like to come see me, you can always make an appointment or if at a later stage you feel you want to come and do a refresher, that's fine. But from a psychological point of view, it's important when somebody leaves you that they feel that the job has been done because most of what is done, they do themselves as hypnotherapy practitioners. We just facilitate they do the work.

And uh, but I think it was about six weeks or two months later, I got a phone call one Sunday afternoon and it was this youngster. So he said no, I had to phone you, I just wanted to say thank you so much. So I said, okay, well you know what's happening? So he said no. Since he'd been to see me, he went on to win the Junior Order of Merit in South Africa. He then went on that day, he just finished the Champion of Champions tournament, which he won and he'd had, I think three or four hole in ones since he'd come to see me as well as purely about focus and mental attitude and belief in yourself and actually teaching people to, to tune into that zone, you know, Uh one of the things that I was fascinated there was when I was growing up overseas, I grew up in, on the west coast of Scotland, there was a guy who played the flute by the name of James galway and very accomplished a flute player and I saw him a couple of times on tv and the thing that fascinated me was as he was playing, you could see the pupils of his eyes moving like a metronome.

I've never seen it, I've never seen it before and I've never seen it since and it's something that stuck in my mind. So obviously that zone that he was in because obviously when you're playing on stage, you don't have a metronome in your ear or he was, he was actually using his eyes as a metronome, that's how zoned in he was to the, to the tempo. So I always find people's stories fascinating as well. So your book starts and and I must be honest with you, I started reading it and the first feeling I had was one of complete discomfort when you start with the miracle of Birth and how you're born. Perfect. And you know, my, my subconscious went, no, there's something major wrong when you were small and I grew up, I was terribly sickly firstly, my my parents waited seven years for me, my mother couldn't get pregnant and eventually I came along just before they adopted somebody. Um and I turned out to be a terribly sickly child. I was allergic to everything. They tried to immunize me. I was nearly died. I had scarlet fever. I had every single government you could think of.

I was terribly sick. So I suspect that a lot of my limiting beliefs specifically around money comes from that, that it's it's it's something to do with being vulnerable. And I had this also this this this habit. And it stopped after I saw somebody of sort of, you know, self sabotaging myself. You know, it's like, I want I want people to feel sorry for me. So I would do well up to a certain point and then I would get sick because that was the only way I could really get attention. And I don't think people really understand the impact that that our childhood and early childhood has on who we become as people. Very, very much so. Because I mean, the first seven years of life, you you are actually in alpha state. You know, Children are in an altered state. That's how they absorb things so quickly. But going back to your comment about the beginning of the book, I struggled when I wrote that chapter because I'm quite well aware that not everybody's experience is that perfection.

So, you'll notice at the end of it, I do say, however, there are a lot of for a lot of people, this is not the ideal situation. You know, real life kicks in. And one of the major things about early childhood is we have a survival instinct and at a very, very early age, we understand that we can't look after ourselves, we have to be protected, we have to be nurtured, we have to be nourished. And so um as vulnerable as we are, we learn to adapt very quickly to fit in with the circumstances that are providing that nourishment and that support. Now that support may be fairly dysfunctional or abusive, but it's all you have at that time. And um so you will modify your beliefs to follow the beliefs of the people who are bringing you up at those early ages and it's all, it's all chemistry, physics and energy, unfortunately, because um the way that our cycle that our brains and our bodies and our hearts and everything are all tied together.

Um what basically happens is we have an experience in the physical that experience, depending on whether it's good or bad will elicit an emotion. And the emotion is what we remember now. Um The emotion also takes on a physical feeling. It can be a tightness in the chest, it can be headaches, it can be um scarlet fever, it can be jaundice in babies, whatever it is, and that is stored in the body. So now that emotion has a physical state that is attached to it and as we're living in that distress and in that stressful state, our body becomes accustomed to that and it develops a comfort zone. So what happens now is we say, oh, we're gonna uh we're going to try and do something that we've we've always wanted to do.

Um I don't know, go for a five mile run or whatever, and then we start out and we never quite finish it. Because what happens is our bodies say, no, no, no, this is actually making us feel good, which is taking us away from the status, which is our comfort zone. So now that's why we sabotage ourselves because our body is actually forcing our brain to say that we can't we can't do this. No, no, no, this is out of the bounds of what we comfortable with, we can't do it. So you must stop. And that's where you get those feelings of giving up and some people just don't fight through it. But so few people actually get the opportunity to change that. I mean, is it something I mean, your book is very much sort of self empowering. These are things you can do for yourself, but how much of it can you do yourself? And how much do you need somebody to guide you to the solution? Look, the if you take the book in its entirety, it is an explanation of a process that I would take a client through the first.

The first realization is that although you are a product of your experiences and you know what people have indoctrinated into and whatever it doesn't have to be because at the end of the day, you still have a choice. If you want to change, you can choose to change. If you choose not to change, it's still a choice, but there is the possibility there now, um, if you look around at the world that we live in, there are constant distractions, you're being bombarded with this advertising, you're being given this message. You know, the big current thing now is we're all terrified to say anything because of this woke community that are so you think, you know, that wear their heart on their sleeves and I think it's born out of good intentions, but unfortunately, I think it's been taken a little too far. Um, and all of those distractions, you know, if you think about it, it's so if you have a habit and you want to break that habit, you have to repeat the new habit for the new neural pathways in your brain to establish that that becomes the status quo and you reject the old.

But when everything around you is constantly driving you back towards your original habits, it's very difficult to actually change life is hard. Um, so that is where hypnosis and guidance and that type of thing comes in so you can do it on your own if you are, uh if it's in your nature to be determined and tenacious and and you you have enough motivation. Um, but most people have a comfortable ish life. You know, they're happy with the status quo and they haven't got a big enough why they understand that there's something wrong. So they come and see people like you and I, and if we can switch them on to their why, I mean, if you think about it, if somebody comes either to you or me for to stop smoking, if they haven't got a big enough why they won't stop smoking, they have to have a proper reason. And as as as practitioners, it's our job to to dig through all the fluff and try and get to that reason so that we can help the people.

Um, and it's, you know, uh as you say, it is a self help book. It is possible to do it on your own. But there's enough people that are that are able to guide people through those processes. And there's a huge movement at the moment in America in this vein where we're actually talking about how to change your energy and changing your vibration of your energy because obviously the experiences and the emotions produce a certain energy in your energy field. And you will attract the same because energy attracts or repels it repels something that's different. So maybe that's why you were repelling money and all of those kind of things. I was going to ask about energy. I'm busy writing something now about energy and how, you know, our bodies work were basically one big battery. You know, these electrical impulses that flow throughout our brains and our bodies and and we kind of create this electromagnetic field around us.

So in effect we are electromagnets. Are we not? Yes. And then if you talk about the law of attraction, you read that book and it's all airy fairy, you don't quite get to the gist of exactly how you're supposed to do it. You know, you are supposed to do, but how they don't quite tell you. And I think your book sort of comes closer to actually giving you very practical advice how to be that magnet and how to attract those things that you do want. Or if you in the negative side attract those things you don't want. Yes. Yeah, sure. Because uh, one of a lot of people like to do affirmations now, I I would prefer my clients not to. We try and find another way of doing it. Because if you are somebody who is overweight, for example, and you constantly stand in front of the mirror and you tell yourself I'm thin, I'm thin, I'm thin, I'm thin, I'm thin. Your subconscious mind says, no, you're not buddy. What's that doughnut doing in your hand And you know that this is where most people fail. Whereas if you understand the unlimited potential or the unlimited creative potential that you can have if you can synchronize your brain and your heart and you can synchronize that energy and get the right energy into your energy field to start attracting the lifestyle and to start attracting the information that you need.

Um You know, particularly with people who are overeating, they go on a diet. Now for me, it should never be a diet. It should be a lifestyle. Because what happens when you go on a diet is that you cut your calories. So as you cut your calories, your metabolic rate will go down to match the calories that you're feeding. But you feed just less calories than your metabolic rate and that's how you get the weight loss. So what happens now is your calories go down? Your metabolism goes down, your calories go down a little bit more. Your metabolism goes down a little bit more. But you end up in a metabolism where it's for you at that particular stage, it's survival and you can't cut your calories anymore. So what happens is you reach a plateau and in that plateau, you don't lose weight anymore. So most people give up and they start eating again. But when they start eating again, they're not aware that their metabolism is still low. So they pick up the weight even faster. Then they picked it up before and that's what we call a yo yo diet.

Whereas if you can have your there are doctors that can measure the calories that you burn in a day and you match your diet to those calories with a view of taking, for example, I don't recommend that people lose more than a kilogram in two weeks or a month. You know, I mean, I used to be a bodybuilder, I was 120 kg at 10% body fat and I was sitting with my daughter the one day and we were just chatting and I said to her, have you ever seen anybody in the seventies, eighties or nineties who's over 100 kg? And we couldn't think of anybody because most of the people who are over 100 kg either dive are hard to tackle or they lose the weight when as as they waste away. So I said to, you know what, I think it's about time that I scaled down. So we cut the weights in half and we, you know, we did other things and I adjusted my diet and I set a target.

This was about 2.5 years ago. I set a target of five kg every six months. Now, I'm sitting on 95 kg. Now, I'm a little bit off my schedule because I wanted to be done by 90 by now. But I don't I don't stress about it because I'm heading in the right direction. You know, I'm 60 years of age, I exercise at the gym regularly. I still do fairly heavy weights. Um but you know, I mean obviously these days instead of taking me a day to recover, it takes me about three days. But I have it's a lifestyle um from a point of view of nutrition, you know, 11 of the big benefits that I have with my sports clients and my weight loss clients is that I know about nutrition from the body building. So, you know, unfortunately most people cut protein protein isn't what you should cut because then you have all these difficulties that start coming into into the picture like osteoporosis, brittle bones. Uh you know, you're you're here and your nails and because protein is your is your building blocks and it's your carbs and your fats that you use for energy.

So those are the things that you should be watching. But your your minimum protein you should be taking every day and you know, one of the uh eventually my idea is to to transform the book website into a blog and we will be offering blog post on the basics of nutrition, how to set up a meal plans because a lot of people don't understand the link between food and calories. You know, for example, if you take a gram of protein, it's 4.5 calories. If you take a gram of carbohydrates, either complex or simple carbohydrates 4.5 calories. But if you take a gram of fat, it's nine calories, A chicken breast will be typically 25-30 g of protein. So from that you can actually build up your meal plan or how you're going to feed yourself with the food that you like. But you know what your calorie calorie thick intake is going to be and you know what you need to survive in the day.

Obviously the big thing is to cut out sugar as best you can. I mean I I must admit I was a bit slow on that on that boat. I only cut out sugar um probably about two years ago, so I like very strong coffee with lots of sugar in it. So, but if you talk about weight and we're talking about the book and sort of the things you cover in the entertained chapters, um it's also got to do with loving yourself and accepting yourself for who you are before you can even make a change. Yeah, one of the things that I'm very big on is we have to understand who we are. And um this actually started a number of years ago, a lady was referred to me for past life regression. And she came, we sat and in the introductory when we were just chatting about her feelings about hypnosis in general.

Um it came out that she was quite a religious lady and I said to him, but you know, if you come to me for a past life regression, how does that fit in with your religious beliefs? So she said, well, it's a bit of a problem because the, you know, her particular church teaches that there is no such thing as reincarnation. So I said to her, well, how's it going to work then? You know how, because obviously I want to give you my best and I want you to benefit from our interaction. But if you if you come in here not believing that something that that that you've been recommended to do is real, then how are we going to get past that? She said, well, she was hoping that I would be able to help her. So what we did was we we said, okay, well let's let's just look at this from common sense principles. If you look at the beginning of everything, the general sort of consensus is there was nothing but whatever entity created this universe that we live in, and if you can accept that, can you accept that everything in the universe came from that being.

Now with her religious beliefs, she could accept that. So I said, okay, so then what does that make you, It makes you a part of that energy? Yes. Okay, now, um one of the things that I've, I've noticed about past life regression, when you go to parties and social gatherings and people say, what do you do? Our hypnotherapy practitioner, Oh, do you do past life regressions? Yes. Oh, that's wonderful because I was Marie Antoinette in a previous life or 14th And a lot of that I feel comes from ego because the experiences that I've taken people through have been hugely cathartic and and and healing in nature. And I just think that to dismiss such an opportunity for the universe to heal you is uh is such a waste by looking at it in terms of the of the ego. So in this discussion that I was having with this lady, I said to a well, so if you are basically a part of God and, and and in the book, I think there's a, there's a passage where we say um that you are the father is all of you, but you are not all of the father yet.

And it's that's the growing process that is like, So then I said to us. So if you if you can just consider for a minute that reincarnation exists, who is reincarnated? And she said, well it must be that that energy of the universe. I said yes, because God created the universe because he wanted to know himself. That's what the bible tells us and how does he get to know himself by experiencing all of these things. And that is one of the reasons why we are so capable of so much more than we limit ourselves to and if we can hold that in our hearts and and and realize that fact, then how can we limit ourselves? How can we not be in control of the energy that we are manipulating around us, how can we not then pushed through to those changes that we want to make in our lives. You know that that for me when I'm sitting with somebody and that light switches on and that aha moment arrives, then I know I've done, I've done my bed and all I need to do is just guide them in the right direction.

And it's a fantastic awakening. But it's true. I mean, your book also, there's a tactical everything comes from within and as you say, if if if we are made in his image, then surely we have got like qualities and uh and then where does those things come from? It comes from from deep within what we call the subconscious mind. And how do we manage? How do we overcome then? The limiting beliefs that the whole world tells us, you're not wherever you you will never be able to amount to much. Um and it seems as if those creative powers are limited to those few people who rule the world. How do we break through those limiting well, again, I come back to what I say to you earlier about all the distractions that we have in our day to day lives that keep pushing us back to the old habits and and the old the old beliefs. So it would make sense then that we have to remove ourselves from that environment. And this is where the subconscious mind and the various states of the brain come in. Because once you start now slowing down the frequencies of the brain and going from your normal waking state into a more meditative, relaxed state.

What happens? I'm assuming now that this is done with the eyes closed, We start taking our our attention inwards and we start to lose a sense of our body and in that place we can start to rationalize things as they are and not as we believe them to be. Now again, going back to regression therapy on and in particular past life regressions. I'm a great believer that uh outside of the universe, there is no time. So everything that's ever going to happen is happening or ever has happened is recorded there because its energy, its memories now the is an opportunity in that, in that regression every process for people to observe people in situations that are similar to what they're going through.

Because if you think about it logically, I'm sitting and because of the situation in my life, I'm emitting a certain energy. When I connect through my subconscious mind with that record of everything that exists, I am going to attract situations and memories from the universal mind that resonate with my energetic vibration when I do that and I observe those things, I don't have the emotions that are attached that are forming my beliefs. So it gives my subconscious mind the opportunity to process that situation the way that it should be processed without it being colored by the emotions that have been attached to it because of my previous experiences or my interpretation of it. So that's what I believe. A past, past life regression is it's going into those memories, looking at uh sympathetic memories of other existences and other memories and looking at it dispassionately without the attachment and the color of the emotion so that the subconscious mind can process it.

Because I don't know if you've ever been in a situation where um well let me paint a scenario for you. You add a soccer game and the guy next to you is going berserk and he's supporting his team and it's the same team as you. You're a little bit embarrassed. But then the team scores a goal and you go just as basic as he does. And the friends sitting next to you says well you were criticizing that guy before, but you're just doing exactly the same as him now. And it's that type of thing because when you observe him, you haven't got the emotional attachment to the scoring of the goal. So you don't have that colored vision. You look at him and you say, well why is he behaving like that instead of being able to look at yourself and say, well why am I behaving like that? Why am I doing the things that I do. And the subconscious mind will process that in such a way that it initiates change. It starts to question those beliefs because you know, your subconscious mind is is uh is plastic as well as well.

The plastic brain theory. And It has three purposes to love you to keep you safe And two point you towards your purpose in life. Those are the three overriding directives of the subconscious mind and all the beliefs that it holds. Um money is the root of all evil. So I must keep you safe by keeping you poor. But now you introduce a different set of uh a different type of information that causes the subconscious mind to challenge those beliefs. Now, all of a sudden says, well, you know, money is not the the root of all evil. So it's okay if you and your financial situation starts to get a little bit better and that's how we generate that change. We have to challenge those beliefs and we can analyze them from a conscious point of view. But at some stage we have to convince the subconscious because the subconscious is the guardian of all that we hold dear.

It's the guardian of our energy. It's the guardian of our brain. It's the guardian of how we function. And it looks at all these situations, it's almost like somebody else is driving the bus. But unfortunately for a lot of people, the limiting beliefs that they go by were formed in the formative years of their life, up to say the age of six or seven now. It's quite frightening when I explained to my, to my clients that they're allowing a six year old child to run their lives, isn't it about time that they grew up and they started taking responsibility and challenging those things because, you know, it's, there's so much potential in people and there's so many things that are, see where if they would just realize they could, they could really have wonderful lives and they become prisoners to their own beliefs. So I've actually made it my mission in my own small way to open up as many people's minds as I can.

And hence the book and the coming block. So if anybody wants to buy the book, where would they get hold of? It's on amazon. Um it's uh, if you type in hit refresh now, it's the only one with that title and it should come up straight away. There is a Kindle version as well, so you can download straight away. Um yeah, you know, if you enjoy the book and you like it, then please leave a review. I've got, I've got a couple of five star reviews up there already and it also comes with the workbook. It does. Yes. My internet skills are not the best. So we're still working on the website, but if you contact me through the website, then I'll just send you the workbook because I think that's that's the great thing about it. It it's a practical kind of guy, You can read it and then there's exercises you have to actually sit down and do things and close your eyes and think about things and imagine and questions. Yeah, exactly. Yeah. Look I mean there are a lot of people who have a lot of knowledge but there are also a lot of people who don't act on that knowledge.

So by adding in the workbook, the aim was to try and get people to at least start asking themselves if not the more difficult questions. You know, some of the easier questions that may lead on to the difficult questions as they as they progress and until you start questioning what you actually believe about yourself, what you believe about other people, what you believe about the world because there are those, those Germanic principles, you know the first Germanic principle is the world is what you believe it to be, because that's what you're going to create in your in your world. And here you have an opportunity to create something amazing with which it's book, it's called the Fish. Now Seven steps to overcoming your limiting beliefs available on amazon and through the website. Mhm. Well I found chatting to my hypnosis colleague very interesting and insightful and I trusted you did too. Their contact details are in the podcast description or you can get in touch with them through find a hypnotist dot c 0.0.0.

If you want to find out more about me and what I do, please visit my website, Hendrick Bad dot com. Remember I released new episodes every thursday, so be sure to subscribe to my channel until we speak again. Have a hypnotic day. Hypnosis works transforming the mind.

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