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S3 E12: I apologize to YOU?!?

by Clifton Pettyjohn
December 23rd 2020
00:37:27
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In this episode, while celebrating his birthday Clifton takes time to apologize to a special person in his life!

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apologize to you. So not allowing you to express to express emotions. What is going on with me tonight? To express emotions when you need it to express emotions? I apologize, I apologize and I want you to understand that who you are now, the one that can connect with his emotions own his emotions but not make a bunch of emotional decisions. I respect you for, right? So I apologize and I respect you for that. No, I apologize to you cliff for now, allowing you to live in truth. Thank you. Yeah, many people define stagnation as not producing or being at a standstill. I get it.

However, I would like to add a little weight to the definition and say that I may be producing, I may be moving. However, my production and my movements are disrespectful to the purpose that's inside of me, to the greatness that's inside of me if that's going on that stagnation as well. And that's okay. Guess why? Because I have developed the tool, I wrote a book called from stagnation and transformation. And that book was written specifically for individuals that feel stuck, that feel lost, that feel like they're just wandering in the wilderness. They feel like they just need something, It's just missing. It's okay. I want you to hit over to www dot clinton Pettijohn dot com forward slash transformation there. You're gonna find a complimentary portion of the book. That's right. A complimentary portion of the book.

I want you to read that portion after that. It's gonna ignite such a fire inside of you that you're gonna want to purchase the, your personal copy of from stagnation of transformation. So I want you to do that as well. Why? Because I believe that it will give you a 21 day jump star to fulfilling or re identifying purpose and whatever core area you find yourself stagnant in. So again visit www dot clinton. Pettijohn dot com forward slash transformation. Okay. Yeah. What's up everybody you are listening to the what now podcast where we discuss ways of effectively addressing life's most difficult moments? Yeah. Okay. Hey, what's up everybody? Welcome to the wood now podcast. That's right. The wood down podcast where we discuss effective ways of facing life. Most difficult moments that you already know.

If you've already subscribed. If you haven't subscribed, I need you to subscribe. But if you've listened to this podcast at all, you know that we have scratched that word difficult out and we have replaced that word with defining no longer difficult moments. But now they're defining moments. Why? Because we have the right the authority and the responsibility to define those moments and not allow ourselves to be defined by a moment. That's right. You are not defined by a moment. Yes. The moment may have happened. Yes. It may have caught you off guard. Yes. You may feel as if you're being hit, your hit, being hit from the left, the right, the front, the back, the top of the bottom, you're just being hit all over. That is the reality of it. But the truth of the matter, the truth of the matter is that you are greater than that moment. You are greater than that moment. So listen, thank you for joining us on today.

I thank you for all your love. I thank you for all your support. I thank you for the comments. I thank you for the stars. I thank you for the shares. And if you have not commented, if you have not start the show, if you have not shared the show, I give you an opportunity to pause and do that right now. Or you might want to wait till the end of today's conversation because you might find a part of the conversation that can connect with somebody that you might know. But I encourage you to share this podcast with at least two people and then encourage those two people and share it with two more people. All right? So we can spread this message of what now, how to effectively deal with those what now moments in our lives and we already know we said what now? Moments alter the trajectory of our lives. And listen when we say alter alter the trajectory of our lives. That's not a bad thing. We look at it is look at it as a bad thing because sometimes we're trying to hold on to some people places spaces things that we don't want to let go.

But the reality is that sometimes we need to let go in order to experience growth and transformation in our lives, growth and transformation in our lives. And if you know me, you already know I'm big on transformation. One of the reasons I'm big on transformation is because of from stagnation and transformation. If you have not invested in your now to produce a future that's connected to your purpose to purchasing this book, I encourage you to do so www dot clinton Pettijohn dot com forward slash transformation, listening will assist you throughout your transformative process, but we're not talking about that on today. Today is my birthday. Now listen, it's not really my birthday when I'm recording this, but it is my birthday when it drops, it is my birthday, when it drops, it is my birthday when it drops, it is my birthday when it drops. Oh, listen, I'm excited y'all we are celebrating. Listen, this is my 40 first birthday.

I am 41 years old, that's right. 41 years old and I've been thinking, I've been reflecting and the reason why I want to celebrate listening, I feel like working. I feel like praising God. I feel like preaching. I feel like teaching. I feel like prophecy. I feel like encouraging those. I just feel like celebrating all at the same time y'all because you don't understand like there was a time and space in my life where I didn't see myself getting to 18, Then there was a time in space in my life. Why didn't see myself getting the 25 and then 30 And then 35 Oh my heart. I just didn't see it. I did not see it. And the reality is I did not see it because there was some days I just did not want to live. I did not want to live. I didn't I didn't I was staying. I allow myself to stay stuff in decisions that I made and the consequences of the decisions that I made as well as the added consequences that I kept giving myself because of decisions that I made.

Because I would not forgive myself, I would not allow myself room for growth. I would not allow myself room for Grace and that's a whole another conversation. Some of you are out there and you're struggling extending grace to others. I encourage you to examine your own life because there are probably some areas in your own personal life that you are not extending grace to which doesnt what? Which keeps you in a space in a place in life to feel okay, well not that's that's the way I said okay with not extending grace to others. But when you understand the grace that has been extended to you and you understand just how amazing how and how awesome you really are in spite of all the things that you've done in spite of all the things that you thought in spite of all the things that have transpired in your life, you will begin to extend grace, not just to yourself, but to everyone that's involved in your everyday life.

In fact, you'll find opportunities to extend grace. Why? Because you understand that you were given that opportunity to grow and develop and even though you didn't like the situation you were going through, even though the situation you were going through may have felt and looked like trash, you begin to understand that it was all for the development of who you are. I look back over my life and I look about, I think about a lot of things, I think about uh being in elementary school and middle school and high school. I think about all of those things. I think about the positive and the not so positive things. I think about entering into adulthood and how I wasn't ready for adulthood and how it wasn't didn't want to go to college, but I wasn't bold enough to vocalize it. I just didn't want to go to college. And I remember up there on campus and I barely went to class. You know, I can't ended up coming back home and I remember thinking of myself as a failure, but the reality soon begin to unfold in my life to understand that I was not a failure.

I was not a failure. I was not a failure, but I was being positioned for something greater and some of you right now, you're in a, in a state of limbo, You're in a state of wandering, in wondering, You're wandering and wondering and you're trying to get a grip and and an understanding on what exactly is going on with your life and what I encourage you to do as it relates the purpose. And if if you listen to me on any platform or have you heard me speak or whatever, you understand that I talk about learning to be fluid as it relates to purpose, learning to be fluid as it relates to purpose. Why? Because sometimes we can become so stuck in a a idea, stuck in a blueprint stuff, in a structure, stuck in a belief system that it causes us to hinder the group and opportunities that are presented to us or it hinders us from being able to see the opportunities before us as opportunities and we begin to see this punished, begin to see this punishment.

I'm talking fast. So when I talk fast, y'all here I'm mouth gets its okay, all right. But I really want to take this opportunity to apologize to myself, I've done a lot of apologizing in my life. I have done a lot of apologizing in my life and the reality is that many times I end up apologizing because I've made decisions and didn't realize the effect that it had on other people. Now, here's what I'm going to say when we are the other people. We also have to be understanding and free people enough to live their life and make their decisions. Some of us have been so used to being in control that when other people make decisions that that do not benefit us or there are the decisions that we don't want them to make. We find ourselves holding them hostage to the decision that they made.

Instead of allowing them setting them free enough to make a decision. Even if we don't agree with the decision, we have to mature enough to understand that is their life and they must be able to live their life. All right, then there are those of us that are scared of making decisions that we have to begin to just say, you know what? I want to free you enough to make your own decisions. And one of the things I want to apologize to myself about is I want to apologize to myself for struggling with the creativity and struggling with the voice of leadership inside of me. I want to apologize to myself because many times I boxed myself in many times, I hindered the growth in my life. Many times I halted when there was time for me to run. Many times there were opportunities that were presented before me that I did not take advantage of because I was afraid of making decisions.

I was afraid of my decision making ability in my ability to be creative on my own. I apologize to you live today. I want you to understand that you have the right the authority and the responsibility to be creative. You have the right the authority and responsibility to spread your wings and fly wherever you want to fly. You have the right the authority and the responsibility to create everything that the creator has called you to create in the way that he has called you to create it. You are have the ability to love. I'm sorry about that. I don't know what that was. You have the ability to love and to be loved. So I also want to apologize to myself for not allowing myself to be loved and not allowing myself to love and that goes in all forms of relationships. One of the things that uh people have realized about me is that sometimes I am hard to love to hear what I'm saying, I'm a very loving person.

If you get to know me if I allow you to get to know me. But one of the things I apologize to myself is for always putting up a brick wall and somebody said you need to set boundaries and I do believe that there needs to be boundaries in our lives, but our boundaries should not be based upon our self preservation mode are self preservation mode. Some of us preserve ourselves and we say, you know what if I if I put myself in this, this, this caged environment, if I lock myself up in these walls and don't let anybody in emotionally spiritually, psychologically, then I don't have to experience the hurts that other people experience. What I'm gonna say something. One of the things that I realized in life is that some of the things that have made me stronger have been the hurt that I experienced now, hear, hear me out, hear me out. That does not mean that we just go looking to be hurt or we continue to put ourselves in situations to be hurt.

Now, I've done that before, but I'm not talking about that, but I'm talking about where you free yourself enough to become vulnerable enough to where if they don't value you enough, they could hurt you. But because you value you enough, you don't allow that hurt to take you to the places and spaces that used to take you. So I apologize to myself that I did not allow myself to build many relationships. I apologize to myself that I self sabotaged a lot of my relationships. I apologize to myself that I did not allow myself to be free enough to be me around people that saw me on an everyday basis. It's funny now because it used to be a person that uh a lot of people didn't know my personality. A lot of people saw me as a lot of people saw me as mean, and I can be me. But a lot of people saw me as mean. They saw me a stand office, they thought I was arrogant, they thought all of those things I didn't play much, you know, I didn't do any of those things and the reason was I was bound up real talk, I was religious, I felt like I couldn't let myself be free because I let myself be free then maybe I just couldn't rep christ in the fullest.

But the reality is that if he God gave you, he created you in a way that he created you as a way that he will use you. So my personality had to get wrapped up in what the creator was calling me to do in order for me to be effective. Now here's the reality. I play a lot now. The crazy thing is a lot of people don't know how to take that play. So what I used to do was I was sporadically placed, I would sporadically play and I would not allow myself the freedom to be myself wherever I was now understand what I'm saying. I do understand respect, understand boundaries, I understand all of those things, I understand all of those things. But yeah me being on your platform means that I cannot authentically be myself then. I don't need your black and there are some people that some of the things I suppose I'm just a little I'm not editing that out either.

Some of the things that I say and post on social media. I'm very strategic about people write me and say you really got to think about some of the stuff that you post. I mean, if you keep posting some of that stuff that's gonna draw, that's not going to draw people to your minister. Let me take a drink on that. Yeah, Sergei today wish it was a mimosa. But must Gatorade let me take a look the most. Mm. Okay, so here's the reality that I've come to. I am not called to everybody. All right. And I'm gonna set some of you young creatures free too. Because I want you to start living your life as well. I want you to not attempt to mimic to not be anybody else and just be free enough to be. You now understand that there's some things that are personal between you and the creator. Whatever your personal convictions are. Stick to your personal convictions. All right. But I want you to be free enough to express your personality. Okay, you're not called to everybody.

Everybody is not going to like. And the reason why you may be struggling in ministry business and in your personal life. The reason why you might don't have might not have a life partner right now. And I'm talking to myself, uh, is because you haven't allowed yourself to be yourself because you keep trying to be what you think, everybody else wants you to be or what everybody has told you that that you should be or what you see everybody else. No baby being you be, you do what you do. I think that was dr pepper I think will be you be authentically you be authentically you because there is an authenticity that those that you are called and designed to reach. Yeah, there's an authenticity. I'm sorry. I'm trying to think of multiple things. I'm not edited. None of this is this is my birthday. There's an authenticity that will draw and attract those that you are called to that if you don't ever step into it, how can they do?

They're attracted to that. Why? Because that is you. This was I ain't about me. It's bigger than me. Okay well then let's take it to the core of who you are. My pastor say at the core of who you are is God. So it's about that core and as I use their essence of who you are that gives off, gives off that fragrance of the anointing that's in your life and the mandate this in your life that attracts them, free yourself to be you free yourself to be you. So cliff. I apologize for not allowing you to be. I truly apologize for that. I apologize to you. So not allowing you to express, to express emotions. What is going on with me tonight to express emotions when you need it to express emotions. I apologize, I apologize and I want you to understand that who you are now, the one that can connect with his emotions own his emotions but not make a bunch of emotional decisions.

I respect you for right? So I apologize and I respect you for that. No, I apologize to you cliff for now allowing you to live in truth because I had you so worried about what people were gonna think and what people are going to say and how people were going to walk away from you and how people were gonna view you. I apologize and I'm so proud of who you are now. This is what some of you might say. You sound very arrogant. Okay? Thank you. I apologize. I apologize. But yet I'm so happy to see the growth in your life for you to on early Be able for the last nine or 10 years to accept who you are. Walk in, who you are, be who you are and not worry about who has a problem with. I apologize to you for holding you hostage and not allowing you to be.

I just wanted to take that time to apologize to myself As I'm entering to entering into. I'm already by time you guys hear the age of 41 because that represents a lot of new things for me as a lot of great opportunities that I'm not going to share yet that are on the table before me and I just wanted to get that apology out um to myself, so that I could completely free myself uh if it was any residue, there was any residue of it. But I wanted to make it public as well as because I want to make that public as well, because I want you to begin to free yourself in areas of your your life where you're still holding yourself hostage from things. You may have said things, you may have done things, you may have not have, you may have may not have said things, you may have not done or may not have done. I free you from all of those things today and I want you to understand just what I don't free you from.

I give you the right the authority and the ability to free yourself from because you don't have to pray to God about that God is waiting for you to free you. He already free. He's waiting for you to embrace that freedom that he has given unto you. So I encourage you today on my birthday december 23rd, let this be the day whenever you're listening some of you might listen to it after this day, but Cliff mus today is Cliff Michelle. But let this be the day that you allow yourself to live free enough to be who you are, Do you hear what I'm saying to be here, you be who you are and to live unapologetically live an apologetically when we live unapologetically unapologetically, you know this is crazy. You'll probably think I'm drunk or something. I'm really not. That is so funny thing.

Like I'm thinking you are not drunk, what is going on with you today? How is the spirit of God? Well anyway, when you live unapologetically you free and release every gift, talent and ability in your life, you free and attract every opportunity that is yours in whatever realm and dimension or from whatever mountain of influence is coming from you release it to be attracted to you. It's attracted to that authenticity. That's all that it is waiting on for you. So my encouragement today for you is that you just allow yourself to be, oh just allow yourself to be and get ready all. Like I said, this is gonna be an amazing year. Were about to come up on the new year and this is a new year for me, this is a new year for me right here is a new year for me. I've experienced loss this year. Uh the greatest loss of course being the loss of my father.

Oh yeah, I still have not been able to find a language to put together honestly for that. Uh so I've experienced loss and I don't take that loss like at all. It's caused me to take time of reflection. It has caused me to visit and revisit some things in my life. It's called me to laugh. It's caused me to cry. It caused me to sit think and contemplate this caused me to do a lot of things, you know, over this year, because now that's both parents that have transitioned. Um yeah, both parents have transitioned. So, you know, I've been processing all of that as well with everything that's going on. But this has also been a great year for me, has been a very defining year for me as it relates to business, as it relates to ministry as it relates to my personal life. You know, it has been a year of restoration, it has been a year of refreshing, it has just been a great year where God has positioned me, I have allowed God to position me.

We've been trying to do it for a minute now, but he has caused a lot of things to come full circle, A lot of things to come full circle. There are some things that in my 20's that now are making sense and I'm a person when I visualize things when I see things. If you tell me things, I see things in pictures and I see things in like motion pictures. So, as I'm going throughout life and doing different things, I'm watching the 20 year old man, the 21 year old man all throughout the 20 year on me having dreams and visions about some of the things that I'm doing now, and it's like, yo this is crazy because I think I gave up on some of that stuff. The reality is, I gave up on it because I thought that when I saw it then it was supposed to manifest if not then within a couple of years And it didn't seem to come to pass and in 10 years passed and it still didn't seem to come to pass.

And then 20 years passed. And here it is coming to pass. I want to encourage each and every one of you that are out there that you dreamed dreams. You've had visions, you received a prophetic word, you have an auction inside of you that has told you, you will be doing something. I want you to stop putting an age on it. I want you to stop putting restrictions on it. I want you to stop thinking that just because you've reached a certain age that now you can't dream the way you used to dream or that that dream died. That dream has not died. And I'm gonna tell you, my former pastor, she used to say something and we used to grab hold of that thing and I find myself grabbing hold of it even more and more to this day. And she said at any given moment, my circumstance can change y'all at any given moment that fold could ring and it could be the opportunity that you have been waiting on it at any given moment.

You could open up that email and that job, that client, that opportunity could be emailing you back for you to walk into it at home that you are desiring. That whatever it is, the peace of mind, that whatever it is that you were designed at any given moment pastor flowers, Thank you for that. You gave us that years ago. And I still hold fast to that thing at any given moment, your circumstance can change and you could be living the life that you dreamt up. Don't stop dreaming, but don't stop working, don't stop dreaming, but don't stop working. Don't stop dreaming, but don't stop working. Because when you dream and you work your way you dream and you work your week, you're weak, you'll reap when you dream and you work, you will read when you dream and you work, you will read and I'm gonna tell you something, say something else before we get off of here. I feel like we're all over the place. I always say that, you know, I always say that because sometimes I do feel like that, but it all makes sense when it ties it all ties together.

But the other thing that I want to say is, I also want us to experience various paradigm shifts in our lives and one the paradigm shift I want us to have is I want us to kill the mentality that we have to work hard, hear me out, Hear me out, hear me out. So when you're all ready to fight me, y'all. It's my birthday don't try today. Okay, Anyway, some of us are working harder than what we're supposed to work because what we're doing, it's not a line with purpose. We're running from purpose while working when we need the purpose to work together, good purpose to work together for the good. He said all things work together for the and he can take it. He will take it and allow all of it to work together for the good. But if you're always constantly working hard and not allowing your body and your mind to rest, try try getting into what purpose and work that work a different way.

Work that vision a different way and see how that works with. If you need help with that who hesitate to reach out. Www dot coach Clifton's dot com. I just want to have a conversation with you. It's complimentary no strings attached. I just want to have a conversation with you because I want you to realize just how amazing and how awesome you are. Listen, thank you all for joining me on today tonight. Whenever you're listening as I said, I'm not editing any of that out. And the reason why I'm not why I'm not adding it out, editing it out is because sometimes we're so focused on perfection that we missed the message and I don't want you to be focused on the perfection of a thing that you missed the message. And that's for me too. Because if you know how when we're recording, you will understand how hard it's going to be for me not to edit out some of those mistakes that I made, but I'm asking God to help me to not be so focused on perfection, do it in excellence, but not be so focused on perfection that I missed the message that he's attempting to get across to me.

Listen as I always say, oh what I want you all the text here. What I want you to text. I want you to text cliff, Maas Cli F M A s. I've been celebrated for years. My birth tax Cliff mus 230 to 648554430 to 6485544. That way you can enter For an opportunity of our drawing at the end of the month and in this case at the end of the year, Okay, this will be the last drawing of 2020. So I want you to let us know, I want you to text that number, letting us know that you want to register. And it also lets me know that you listen to the podcast. Don't forget share the podcast with two people guys share with them. If you're listening on Youtube, make sure you subscribe to our youtube channel and share our Youtube channel and trying to get the Youtube to blow up because we're taking this podcast from just audio, taking it to video as well and that's the reason for that because this face needs to be on tv now, I need to get in the gym and lose some of this excess stuff while we're doing and I might actually feel my transformation, I might actually do that.

But this face was made for tv and I'm gonna do everything in my power to get this face on on tv and I need your help with that. So make sure you're subscribing to my Youtube channel, as I always say, create a great day walk with purpose and by all means execute your vision peace. Mhm Thank you. Mhm think about if you acted on every idea um perhaps you may have several businesses right now, right, You may be a multimillionaire because you acted on those ideas, who knows? However think about it from this standpoint. If you acted on every one of those ideas, perhaps you may be overwhelmed all the time. Perhaps you may be having difficulty managing the different businesses that you have, you may be having difficulty managing the movie, different moving parts, even as for myself, being an entrepreneur Solo preneurs that would call uh call me, it's sometimes interesting because I have these ideas for my business, but at the moment I am not at a scale where I can do that.

Um but let's talk a little bit deeper, some of the ideas that I have are good ideas, but a lot of the ideas that I have, number one are not tied to my identity, secondly, they're not uh they're not connected to a need or a gap, or they don't answer a question. You just heard the voice of identity strategist, Michael, Weston, Michael spent 10 years as a marketing and branding expert and now he focuses on helping clients identify breakdowns by discovering their identity. Michael wants to invite new entrepreneurs to a live interactive course where you will receive real time feedback and support as you begin to develop your new identity aligned business. The name of the course is fresh idea, Natty, and we'll explore these three questions, Who am I, Who is my idea for and how does my identity connect to my idea for more information?

And to sign up for the course, visit www dot fresh dot super normal dot com. What's up everybody you are listening to the What now podcast where we discuss ways of effectively addressing life's most difficult moments. Okay. Mhm

S3 E12: I apologize to YOU?!?
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