And let's talk about guilt. Why do we feel guilty about some of the things that we do? Sometimes we only feel guilty about some of the things that we do because we were told, we were taught, we were trained, we were conditioned to believe that some of the things that we did were wrong. Now, I'm not here to say right wrong, I'm not here for all of that. But here's what I'm saying. Sometimes guilt is only attached to the conflicting beliefs that are in your life, the conflicting beliefs that are in your life. See there are times in our lives that God begins to take us on a journey and when God takes us on the journey, he is teaching us who he is personally to us. Now, here's where the conflict comes because many times you're gonna learn in this journey that as God begins to teach you who he is and who you are in him Many times it's gonna contradict some of the things that you were taught and told throughout your entire life.

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You'll get a great looking podcast website, audio players that you can drop into other websites, detailed analytics to show how people are listening tools to promote your episodes and more. So start your show today by using the link provided in the show notes this let's Buzz sprout. No we sent you And it gives you an opportunity to receive a $20 Amazon gift card as well as it helps support our show. What's up everybody you are listening to the What now podcast where we discuss ways of effectively addressing life's most difficult moments. Yeah, okay yeah. What's up everybody? My name is clipped in petty john I am the established voice of transformation.

I teach individuals how to revolutionize their life through purpose, identification and execution. You are listening to what the what now podcast That's right the wood now podcast where we discuss effective ways of facing life's most difficult moments and if you listen to the show at all you understand that we have matured beyond identifying these moments as difficult. They are not difficult moments. They are defining moments. Why are they defining moments? Because we took back our right our authority and our responsibility to define those moments and not allow those moments to define us? We no longer get stuck in moments. We understand that every moment we face, there is purpose inside of it. There is purpose around that there is purpose within it. All right. So we understand that. So we understand that it is our right. As I said, our authority and our responsibility and the key word in that is responsibility.

We have taken back the responsibility for our lives, were taken back the responsibility for the lives of those that are connected to who we have been called purpose and design to be All right. So, here's what's up yesterday I was at the bus station waiting to catch the bus to the train, the train to the plane to get here to Atlanta. Alright, on my way to the bus station I had a conversation with one of my cousins. It blessed me and when it blessed me and sparked something inside of me that made me want to record today's podcast. Well, I get to the bus station, I'm sitting out there, I'm inspired when I get inspired. I get hyped as you can see I'm very expressive when I talk. Therefore I felt like I need to record this nail. I got to get this thing out of me. So I thought I hit the record button on my phone and I started to talk and as I start to talk man, that thing got good to me and I'm sure the people that were at the bus station probably were wondering what is that man doing over there?

Why is he moving his hands? Is he talking to itself? Does he need help? Does he need to be admitted? What is going on with him? But what they didn't understand what I was going through a process, I was going through a process of revisiting some areas of my life that sometimes I had tucked away. Sometimes I don't like to discuss. Sometimes they bring up some hurts and pains and some anger and some frustration and some rage and you know those moments in our lives, those things that we say are dead and gone. But I remember somebody used to say they're not didn't go on during a coma waiting for the right experience to wake them up. And some of us think that it's a bad thing when they are awakened. No baby. It's not a bad thing when they are awakened. It just means now is being brought to the forefront now it's time for us not just to recognize those situations but begin to deal with those situations from the vantage point or the space that we now reside in some of you, there are circumstances situations in your life that you may still have a little bit of fear of facing but what you have to understand is that in the space that you are in now in the dimension that that you are functioning now.

You don't just visit that dimension every now and then. You don't just visit that space every now and then you reside there now. And because you reside there now, your mentality has changed your mindset has changed your heart has changed, your spirit has changed concerning, you've had a paradigm shift concerning it. So therefore now it's time for you to face it and address it because now you can face it and address it from a place of healing, A place of understanding, a place of covenant, a place of revelation in a place of transformation. So now what are we going to talk about today? What was it That was so heavy and so pressed in your spirit on yesterday that you had the people ready to call the cops on you because they just couldn't understand what was going on out here in this parking lot. Okay. So uh I was talking to my cousin and we were talking about guilt and she was talking about how guilt had her for so many years. Um the stage or the state that Gil had hurried for so many years and we were talking about another family member and how they were struggling with guilt and what it had done what it does to them.

And uh she was talking, I just started to begin to think and I was like, Lord, you really have brought me a long way because I remember when guilt used to cripple me. I remember when gil used to paralyze me for, you know, I use those terms literally. I remember when they used to perplex me. I remember when it used to hand me ready to curl up in a ball in a little corner. I remember when it had me walking around crying and just crying and crying and crying. I remember when it had me feeling like there was no way, no hope, no how I remember when it had me feeling like no one loved me, including myself. I remember when it had me feeling as if God had just forgotten about me or God had given up on me or I made so many mistakes in my life that there was no way possible that I could bounce back from the last mistake. I remember those days, I remember those days being depressed. I remember the oppression behind it.

I remember suppressing some of the feelings that I was having. I remember feeling as if I had no outlet. I couldn't talk to anybody about it. Nobody would understand it all. They would want to tell me was pray and trust God. You gotta pray. You gotta believe God. And it wasn't that I was not praying. It wasn't that I didn't believe God. It was I did not understand how to destroy this kingdom in my life that I had allowed to be established that childhood since childhood. Since childhood. See there were some things that are going to require some more in depth work for us to uh for us to progress beyond. For us to progress beyond it. Why? Because it took years upon years upon years for that kingdom to be established. Yeah. Mm hmm. As a health and wellness coach. Gordon walker JR assists his clients in losing weight, gaining weight are just being fit. He also helps with meal plans.

You can reach him at 30 : 9908907. Or you can visit the website at Numa 20 for dot go herbal Life dot com. That's Nouma 24 at Gold Herbal Life.com. Yeah. Mhm. Mhm. Mhm. And we're handling a kingdom as if it's something that jess began or begun or just begun. Yeah. And the reality is it's not anything that just begun. It can be traced. And with me I traced it right in that conversation. I was tracing it back all the way to elementary school. I was tracing it back from elementary to middle to hide to my 20's to my thirties and I'm 40 now. So I was tracing it throughout my entire life and I was realizing that it wasn't until I got off that hamster will that I kept giving the momentum to go around over and over and over and over again.

It wasn't until I got to the space in the place where I understood I understood that I was greater. You hear what I'm saying that I was greater, I was greater than what I was allowing myself to experience. I was greater than that. Why you know, I want us to understand something. There is a false sense of humility that has been talked to some of us and we that that's false sense of humility has locked us up our entire life. It is not humble to put yourself down. It is not humble to always think so low of yourself. And I want to ask you a question the bible says and I don't want to get too deep into it away on the podcast. But the bible says that God created man in his image. He created us in his likeness, in his, in his image. Okay, so therefore if he created us in his likeness in his, in his image, how does he get glory out of us?

Putting ourselves down? It makes no sense. It makes no sense. It makes them And we do it sometimes in cliches that have been adapted or adopted over the years. I was talking to Michael Weston, my pastor, I was talking to him and I was telling him how I realized a few weeks ago, I was doing a BFF session in the reform. If you don't know about the reform, check in the link, the link to reform. So you guys can go over there and check it out. Powerful, powerful, powerful. Anyway, so I Elliott Carlisle. He got on that. If you know remember talking about Elliot, if you follow me the transformation Radio Elliott is the one that ignited and brought about the memory of the power of my voice and the power of conversation. So it was from his show Destiny conversations that transformation radio was birthed and became uh we started out to call it purposeful conversations and they always say organic conversations.

But anyway, he had got on and we were talking and everything and then he got to a space where he said you know, he started giving me compliments about where the journey he had watched me go through and I always joke when people do that, I'd be like yo I'm again I'm trying to make me cry and I always do that. And the reason why I do that is because moments like that make me uncomfortable. They make me very uncomfortable. And the reason why they make me uncomfortable is because sometimes I struggle with that that humility. Uh the sense of humility that was taught to us to make us feel like we can't take credit for a compliment that's given to us. And some of us use this cliche whoa, oh to God be the glory to God, be the glory. I get it and God is being glorified why because he created you therefore any time you are doing what he called you to do, you are bringing glory honor and praise to him.

So I get I do get that. But you also have to learn how to receive some compliments. You have to learn how to receive and hear the good things that you do. Some of us have been so conditioned to hear the negative things that we do. That. When we hear the good things that we do, it causes us to cringe that. And that's how I was, I was cringing. I was like, okay, so what do I do? I don't know what to do next. I don't know what to do next. Some of that is traced to give because every time somebody attempts to give you a compliment, every time somebody attempts to praise that what you are doing. Every time somebody attempts to praise the God that's inside of you. You go through the thought process of. Well, I just made this mistake 10 minutes ago yesterday I made this mistake last week. I made this mistake last month. I made this mistake last year. I made this mistake when I was 12, I did this when I was eight, I did this.

I remember being five years old in kindergarten, I stole somebody's cracker. You start going through all of those things. You start reliving all of those things and I'm sure this may not be for everybody. But I know that this was some of you. I know it's for some of you because of the burden that I felt concerning this. We have to learn how to let some of these things in our lives and most of these things in our lives go. We have to let it go. Why do I have to let it go cliff? Because if you never let it go, you don't grow. You don't grow. You don't grow. You don't grow. I must say this in this sense. You don't grow to the capacity that you need to grow to. You don't grow to the capacity that's connected to your purpose. You don't grow to the capacity that's connected to the design that the creator has for your life. You already know how to talk about stagnation. And the stagnation is not it's not it's not that you're not producing, but it is producing at a level that's disrespectful to our creator is producing at a level that's this this disrespectful to the greatness that's inside of us.

And any time we keep submitting to guilt. We then submit to that, which is less than the greatness that is inside of us. And let's talk about guilt. Why do we feel guilty about some of the things that we do sometimes we only feel guilty about some of the things that we do because we were told we were told we were trained, we were conditioned to believe that some of the things that we did were wrong. Now, I'm not here to say right wrong. I'm not here for all of that, but here's what I'm saying. Sometimes guilt is only attached to the conflicting beliefs that are in your life. The conflicting beliefs that are in your life. See, there are times in our lives that God begins to take us on a journey and when God takes us on the journey, he is teaching us who he is personally to us. Now, here's where the conflict comes. Because many times you're gonna learn in this journey that as God begins to teach you who he is and who you are in him many times, it's gonna contradict some of the things that you were taught and told throughout your entire life.

And if you are not careful through that process now, guilt begins to be established because as you are walking in your freedom now, the bondage that once you once identified as freedom is trying to call you back to where it was, but you don't want to return there, but you feel like you have to return there because you feel obligated. Yeah, I said a little preachy today, but you feel obligated to what was told to you, you feel obligated to what was taught to you. So because you feel obligated to it or you feel obligated to that person or you feel obligated to that establishment, You feel obligated to it. Now, you have a conflicting belief systems or two conflicting belief systems colliding inside of you and one is trying to overpower the other and you're fighting on this side one day, but then on the other side another day, and because you have those conflicting thought patterns, those conflicting behaviors, those conflicting experiences.

Now, you find yourself feeling guilty about a freedom that God is attempting to give to you. You find yourself feeling guilty, You find yourself and I'm gonna tell you how how serious the thing thing gets. You have moments of peace. You have days where you experience peace, shoot, you might even have a whole week where God is introducing you to the peace that surpasses all understanding. But even in the midst of peace, your mind is telling you that you need to wait a minute, wait a minute, wait a minute. Something's going on. This feels too good. This can't be right. There's no way possible. This can be right because this feels too good and because it feels too good, there's no way possible. It can be right? So what are you saying, cliff and all that? I've said. My main thing that I want each and every one of us to understand is that we have to learn to let some things go. We have to learn to allow God to deconstruct our belief systems are patterns, our behaviors, our thought processes, We have to allow the deconstruction of that because God can establish anything great or greater in your life until he tears down those things that you ultimately don't believe, Have you ever found yourself being conflicted?

Because you uh You are part of a system that believes one thing. But then you get home and you start having conversations with yourself or you might have conversations with your spouse or conversation with somebody that you trust and you come to an understanding that you honestly don't believe that and it's not that you don't believe that because you just, you just want to be rebellious. No, you just came to a greater revelation of who you are and who got it. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Today is a great day to start your own podcast, whether you're looking for a new marketing channel, I have a message you want to share with the world or just think it would be fun to have your own talk show, podcasting is an easy and expensive and fun way to expand your reach online.

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No, we sent you And it gives you an opportunity to receive a $20 Amazon gift card as well as it helps support our show. Mhm mhm Yeah. And any time you come to that greater revelation, they're greater revelation. It is going to cause conflict within you Now. Here's the thing about guilt, guilt also brings about confusion. Now I think the word says that God is not the author of confusion. God is not wrapped in confusion. Therefore you have to begin to trace where where is this guilt coming from? Where is it coming from? It's not coming from God. Ultimately it's coming from the enemy within the enemy, within the kingdom within that has been established. So what, what do I need to do then cliff? If that's the case, I always encourage therapy, I'm always going to encourage therapy.

Therapy revolutionized my life. Therapy helped me get in touch with some of the areas of my life that I had disconnected from. It, brought back memories in my life that I needed to have in order to progress to where the creator was taking to progress to where he was taken to me and I believe you need to have professional therapy. Why? And I don't think you need to know the person personally, I don't think you need to have a relationship with them. You need to have somebody that can make you call yourself on some of your own patterns and behaviors that you've allowed to be established. And I'm gonna tell you, the more that you talked that out, the more you have those conversations, the more freeing it will be to you. Then sometimes you need to change your own conversation as it relates to yourself in my book from stagnation of transformation I have at the end some influence confessions, you need to be doing daily affirmations or confessions over your life and I can admit I haven't been consistent with those as consistent as I used to be with those and now I'm realizing as I'm talking to you, I gotta get back to that because you have to begin to replace your old vocabulary with new vocabulary, you have to begin to replace your old experiences with new experiences every time you want to go negative about yourself, you need to give yourself to positive thoughts about yourself to positive experiences about yourself, whether they came from another person or from yourself.

Tell yourself what it is that you like about yourself. If in the beginning stages you're having a problem of being able to do that then you need to have an accountability partner or partners that you can call and say yo I'm thinking thoughts that that are lower than me. I'm really thinking these things about myself is causing so much pain and hurt and fear and rejection and hatred yourself. I need you to tell me to positive things that I've done for you or that you've witnessed personally about me or tell me two things, two attributes that I have that that you see that are valuable. Now, somebody you don't need to depend on other people. Sometimes you need that community in the beginning now don't let it become the crunch that you never kit because sometimes you just need them to speak that into your life. That's why you have to make sure also you are around the right people. You don't need somebody, I don't call them penny parties. I call them cliff parties.

Why we have to identify them for what they are. Ain't no pity party, It's a cliff party. It is the lower part of me attempting to gain control once again, No baby, I've caused you to come up. I've caused you to level up. I've caused you to live in a new dimension. So now we are residing here. So when it comes to those clip parties, there are certain people that I can't call in contact why? Because I said yo man, I just feel like it's not even worth it. This isn't changing. That isn't changed, man, I feel you, I know what you're saying. I get it because man it's the same way with me and I get sometimes, you know, people need to vent. We all have our times we need to vent, but that's not a venting moment. That's the moment that you need somebody to pull you where you need to be pulled too. So you don't need to call them. You need to call the one that you avoid sometimes that you don't want to talk to. Sometimes the one that gets on your nerves, sometimes the one that holds you accountable, not judges, you hold you accountable. You need to call them and allow them to speak life into your life until you build up that muscle memory once again to where you can speak it into your life once again, and sometimes you'll go through seasons where you're speaking it, they're speaking it more to you than your speak anymore.

Then, as you continue to level up, level up, level up, then it will be an equal amount of time, and then before you know it, you no longer are depending upon their voice, because now you have reconnected with the voice inside of you, and as you reconnect with the voice that's inside of you now, you begin to understand who you are even more and you'll understand that you're greater than the guilt that you've allowed to reign in your life. You're greater than all of those things that you've allowed to reign in your life. It might not be guilt that you're dealing with. It might be self hatred, whatever it is that you're dealing with. It might be rejection or the misidentification of rejection. Go back and listen to that podcast as well. But I want you to understand you are greater than these situations that you are allowing to hold you hostage. You're bigger than a moment. Really. Think about this thing for me. I can trace some of the areas of my life that I stayed stuck in. Excuse me in my early 20s.

All the way to teams 256789, 10 years old. Okay, I can trace it and now that I'm looking at it from a different vantage point, I'm like Cliff. How did you allow that moment? Excuse me to run your life? 10 15 2030 years later, you'll let it go. It's okay. It had to happen the way that it happened. I know it didn't make sense to you. I know you feel like you could have handled it better. I know all of that. But it happened the way that it needed to happen. Nothing happened by coincidence. Nothing happened by mistake. Every decision. You made everything. You walked away from everybody. You walked away from everybody, You walk to you walk into their lives. They walk into your life. They walk out of your life. It all happened for a reason. And if you change just one circumstance, you wouldn't be who you are today.

God knew this. He knew it, baby. You don't have cliff. I'm working. I'm gonna get there one day. Stop saying that, change your language baby. You are right where you need to be, you are right where the creator needs you to be so he can get the greatest glory out of your life. You are positioned where you need to be positioned. I don't care what you are doing right now, what you are facing right now. You are positioned where you need to be positioned. And the question now is what now, what now, what are you going to do with what you have right now? What are you going to do with? Are you going to put it off another day? Are you going to take advantage of every opportunity? Every moment? Every defining moment in your life? Are you gonna take the right the responsibility and the authority to define it and not allow guilt to live for you are not guilty.

God has set you free and he sent me today to be the voice to free you. To understand that you are free to be you. As I always say, create a great day walk with purpose and by all means execute your vision peace. Yeah. Mhm Yeah, many people define stagnation as not producing and I understand that, but let me add a little weight to the definition of stagnation stagnation