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Yeah, Okay, what's up everybody? Welcome back to the what now podcast, my name is Cliff. Uh you know the one now podcast is where we discuss positive ways of facing life's most difficult moments and we matured. So we no longer call them difficult moments. We understand that these are defining moments. We have the ability the right and the authority to define these moments in our lives. Why? Because God has delegated that power to us. The creator has given that to us and who are we not to exercise that right in our lives? Alright, So we've committed to exercising on this show. So let's get right into tonight's topic. Tonight's topic is and I'm gonna give you the topic and then we're gonna work ourselves backwards. Tonight's topic is I house solutions not grudges, our house solutions, not grudges.
Now that that sounds very powerful and I'm not going to get on here and throw my hand back and throw my head back and start preaching. But I want you to understand something. Life is full of choices and based upon the choices that we make. Each choice that we make comes with a set of consequences. They set of consequences. Now, I've been a person in my life at a younger age, I held grudges. I was not a very vocal person. So I was with my pastor, used to call me, uh, I think she said a volcano and somebody else used to call me a ticking time bomb ticking time bomb because I held everything and I suppressed everything and suppressed it and suppress it and suppress it. And then eventually the lava poured out and I exploded. Or the uh, the ticking stop and the bomb blew up. And a lot of times when the bomb blew up in the volcano exploded. I always ending ended up displacing my anger and my frustration on the wrong person.
You know, thank God for maturity and thank God for therapy because it has taught me how to effectively communicate how I feel. No, I'm granted, I'm still working sometimes on communicating it in a manner that doesn't hurt feelings, but the reality is that sometimes I can't control somebody else's feelings being hurt because sometimes people aren't hearing the way that I am saying it. They are hearing their perception of what I'm saying. And sometimes it's hitting triggers and taking them back to situations and they're associating me with somebody else. Y'all know how we do when we don't deal with the things in our lives, it always leaks over into something else. But anyway, so as I said, I'm not that ticking time bomb anymore. I don't have a problem expressing how I feel and I have worked very hard to understand what I need to carry and what I need to release.
See the ministry side of me used to feel as if if you came to me with your problems and you came to me with your burdens now hear me out now I will be there for you. I will rock with you 100%. But I've also learned that sometimes people aren't coming for help. Sometimes people aren't coming. Just two event. Sometimes people are just coming because they just want you to carry it for them. So I've learned how to release what needs to be released, carry what needs to carry needs to be carried and keep out of my spirit. The things that would contaminate me Anthony baker JR is the ceo of a nonprofit community organization called helping the homeless as an organization. They are committed to changing lives and making other smile in addition to providing hands on services for the homeless community all over philadelphia.
They also have a big brothers mentoring program were participating. Youth are taught the value of giving back to their community to learn more about the organization call 2154878589. Or email them at H. T. H. Philly at gmail dot com. Mhm. Now I do a good job at contaminating my spirit on my own. So I don't need any help when it comes to contaminating my spirit. So I have to work hard even at my own contamination just to make sure that I keep my spirit, my heart, my mind, my soul, even my body free of extra weight. Now I need to work on the extra weight of my physical body. But that's a conversation for another day. Okay. Anyway, I thank God that I'm not a person that holds grudges.
I'm not in person that holds grudges. I am grateful for that. I can love you. Even if I heard you dog me, there's a lot of people in my life that don't even know that I heard the conversations they had. See they don't even know that the person that had the conversation what came to me and told me the conversation. That's their reliable source because they don't show me receipts as well. Yeah. And then you have those that will turn on each other and tell what the other person said. I've experienced all of that. I've experienced all of that. But one of the things that I've learned in life and I don't want to sound like I've just been free of this thing. There are some people that I've talked about as well. You know, there's some wrong that I've done as well. I'm not perfect. If you hang around me for two minutes, you'll understand just how perfect I am not. I do not put myself on a pedestal old everything about me. All right. So I want to share this story because a couple of weeks ago somebody wrote me on facebook talking about, I don't hold grudges.
Okay. Somebody wrote me on facebook and they let me know that they were interested in me. Um That's a sidebar. If you're interested in me, don't pursue me, let me pursue you. Okay. If you ever have a question about me being interested in you, you'll know I'm interested in you, I will give you attention. Okay? And let me explain that because some of you might say, oh he gives me a lot of attention. No, no, no no no no no no. I won't give you the attention I give to everybody else. You'll know. You'll know it'll come out of my mouth so you don't have to come to me, coming to me as a turn off to me, okay, It's really a turn off, especially if you're aggressive. You know that is really a major turn off like chill. make me feel as if there's a chase somewhere. Don't make me feel as like feel as if I have to run and you're gonna try to chase me okay. Um that was just a little sidebar there. But anyway they were telling me how they were interested in me. But what was uh the reservation they had was that they had heard something about me in my past.
Now I will very adamantly say that what they told me, they heard about me in my past was a lie. It was a lie and lie. A lie. A lie. Okay now they explained to me that it wasn't necessarily that they believe the person, however their approach. So they believe that it wasn't necessarily that they believe the person, they just wanted to give me the opportunity to clear my name. One of the things that I've learned in life guys is that you do not chase a lie with truth because you will spend your whole life trying to prove something is a lie to someone who has already bought into our somebody's who have already bought into the law. You don't have to prove that that's one of the greatest things about me is that I don't I'm not moved by people liking me, I'm not moved by being accepted by people.
Um I'm really my own man. Uh as I told you all before. The quarantine didn't really affect me because I don't mind being by myself. I actually liked me. I actually like me sometimes I don't, but overall I really like me, I love me. I'm looking in the mirror right now, I really genuinely love me. Okay, so anyway, you know, I explained to them, you know, I wasn't that's not anything that I'm going to entertain and what. Mhm. Yeah. Are you thinking of selling or buying your dream home? Then contact Harrison. Dominic in the people's agent as a licensed realtor. And both Delaware and Merlin. Harrison desires to help you sell or buy your home and he promises you that your experience with him will be great call or text him today at 3022600659 or email him at Harrison dom market at g bell dot com.
Mhm. Mhm. So I start writing and I just really begin to think and I was just like, God, I thank you. Yo because I'm pretty sure where that information came from. Um No, I'm very sure, very sure where I could trace it all the way back to it. And the thing about it was um I thank God for how he created me, even though I used to hate being like this, y'all don't understand, I hated being like this because a lot of people looked at me, looked at it as me being a pump and there was season in my life where I was a punk. I share that story too. But people look at you as being a punk, they take your contents for weakness. They think you're soft, You need to be more aggressive, You need to confront this person and confront that person. I don't get a choice that I'll confront when confrontation is needed, I will confront but I will be led by the spirit of God. That is the one thing about me. I'm not one that's gonna jump up and make rash decisions, I'm gonna process some things.
So I thank God as I was sitting and I was thinking, I was like, Lord thank you. And as I was sitting and just meditating, the creator asked me do you want to hold grudges or do you want to hold solutions? Do you want to house grudges or do you want to have solutions? And I really started thinking about that thing and I was like, whoa, thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. That I am not one who houses grudges because if you are one of the houses grudges and you are sent to be a solution, it is going to taint the solution that you are presenting. And if you're going to be a solution, you can never allow a grudge to stand in the place of the solution that you're supposed to be representing. So I vow and I want each of you devil that we will be ones that house solutions and not grudges. Now the reality is in order to be one that vows to do that.
That means we're going to have to deal with some of those deep rooted issues inside of us that still has us holding grudges and not letting go. Some of us are holding grudges with people. They don't even thinking about us. Their grudges from years and years and years and years ago and your bones have dried up. You're dealing with arthritis. You're dealing with other aches and pains in your body because it has dried you up. You need to free yourself enough to understand I hold solutions so I have to release the grudge. I hold solutions so I have to release the grudges. See one thing about purpose. One thing about uh ministry and business or a vision, a vision should always offer a solution is to be a solution to a problem. Sometimes our vision hasn't been able to be the solution to the problem that's presented because we're still holding onto the problem ourselves.
Some of you are solutions and relationships. Some of your solutions and finances. Some of you are solutions in education, some of you are solutions and uh, whatever your solution. But if you are holding grudges in any of those areas, are you holding grudges with anything that's connected to the air. Those areas. No wonder you can't be the solution that you're called and created to be because you won't even allow yourself to be the solution for yourself, Let it go, Let it go. People are gonna think and say whatever they want to think and say and sometimes I always say this, I'm all about embracing your truth. Embrace your truth. But please make sure that your truth from an integrity standpoint, don't allow your truth to be attached to a lie about somebody else.
Even if it's your perception of what happened, explain that it's your perception, free yourself from that victim mentality. Because if I have to go around and tear you down in order to get people to embrace me and build me up. The reality is they're not embracing me. They're not building me up. They're building up a lie that was told and you don't have to tell a lot because you are a solution. Embrace that solution today, embrace you today and let that bitterness go, let it go. I have solutions. I don't house grudges. I meant let that grudge go. I have solutions. I have no time to house grudges. All right, I'm out of here. I just want you all to be a house of solutions. All right, appreciate each and every one of you listening. You have any feedback or anything you would like to add to the show.
Always reach out to me at info at Clifton's petty john dot com again, info at Clifton's petty john dot com as I always say, create a great day, walk with purpose and by all means guys execute your vision peace. Mhm Many people define stagnation as not producing or being at a standstill. Yeah, I get it. However, I would like to add a little weight to the definition and say that I may be producing, I may be moving. However, my production and my movements are disrespectful to the purpose that's inside of me, to the greatness that's inside of me. If that's going on that stagnation as well and that's okay. Guess why? Because I have developed the tool, I wrote a book called from stagnation of transformation and that book was written specifically for individuals that feel stuck that feel lost, that feel like they're just wandering in the wilderness that feel like they just need something, it's just missing.
It's okay. I want you to hit over to www dot clinton petty john dot com forward slash transformation there. You're gonna find a complimentary portion of the book. That's right. A complimentary portion of the book. I want you to read that portion after that. It's gonna ignite such a fire inside of you that you're gonna want to purchase the, your personal copy of from stagnation of transformation. So I want you to do that as well. Why? Because I believe that it will give you a 21 day jump start to fulfilling or re identifying purpose and whatever core area you find yourself stagnant in. So again, visit www dot clinton Pettijohn dot com forward slash transformation