Welcome to the Self care with Marissa Radar podcast. I'm your host, Marissa and I am a certified life coach and self care expert. I'm making it my mission to help busy women build a self care centered lifestyle because self care is so much more than just pampering yourself. Society leads us to believe that basic rights, like taking a warm bath or having our hair done is self care. But I'm here to change that narrative. I'm going to teach you how I went from overwhelmed, stressed to the max and burned out on life to thriving and loving the life I'm building. And it all started with making a commitment to myself. So what do you say? Are you ready to commit to your own personal development journey? Let me lead you to the path of happiness and contentment. That's right. The one that leads you to a life you truly love. Let's get started. Hey, welcome back to another Quick wins episode and this one is the definition of quick wins. I'm a respirator and we are going to be talking about the meaning of success in this episode.

Success is oftentimes seen as being a person who has achieved some certain level of materialism or power, but that's not the only way to measure it in this episode. I'm going to be discussing what really represents success so that you can find out if your goals are on track with where they should be. So the first step that you need to take is defining success for yourself. What does that look like? A lot of times we will see inspirational or motivational posts on social media that say, you know, success isn't defined by dollar signs or you know, it's not about how much money you make, but the impact which is completely true, but that still doesn't tell us what success is or what success looks like, and so I'm just gonna share quickly with you how I determine my own success and it's by the amount of people that I can have an effect on.

So it's the amount of women that I get to work with in a year. That's how I determine success now by the amount of money that I make or buy the material items that I can have in life. It is simply by the number of people I can impact in a year. How many women's lives can I change? Because I know that my success and my talents and yes, I have put in the work to get better at them and to grow them and to develop them, but I have taken the steps that I have because God has given me those gifts and those talents and he wants me to use them to glorify him. And so for me, I do that by impacting the lives of other women. That is how I can use what he has given me to put my mark on the world and make it a better place and give glory to him for all the amazing things that he has provided for me in my life. Okay, so you now need to do the same thing.

What does success look like for you? Is it being a stay at home mom that raises the most amazing kids, Not that non stay at home moms can't raise the most amazing kids as well. But if that's what you feel like success is for you, then that's what success is. If it is leading church or being a teacher and how many students lives you impact every year or maybe it's writing a book or being a public speaker, whatever that looks like for you. Whatever those innate gifts that you have that you need to share with the world to glorify what gifts God has given you, that's what success is to you. So think about it, how can I use my gifts to go under the world and what does that success look like? So you can't compare yourself to others because no one else has been given your specific skill set in the way that you've been given it.

No one has developed it in the way that you've developed it. No one's had the life experiences that you've had. And so it's your job to go out and use what you've learned and your personality and your abilities. And so comparing yourself to others is I'm not going to do you any good. You also need to set realistic goals because it could be a goal of mine to reach a million women every year, but that's not realistic. So my goals are much smaller than that because I can have a much bigger impact. If I were reaching a million women every year, I would not be able to dedicate the amount of time and effort. I don't know if efforts the right word, but I wouldn't be able to put it pour into them the way I want to pour into them if I was meeting and greeting a million women a year. So set realistic goals for yourself, Be persistent in them. Don't give up because even when things are hard, we've all heard the cliche saying that when one door opens, when one door closes, another one opens or find the window or whatever that saying is, I don't even know you have to be persistent and you can't give up because new opportunities are going to continually present themselves to you, take time for yourself to grow and to rejuvenate and be you.

You can't, I will never say that. You can't pour from an empty cup. I don't like that saying, I would rather you overflow your own cup into the cups of the people around you. So you do the work, you do the growing and then you share that with other people and then make sure that you're celebrating your accomplishments every single one of them. I say this, I think almost in every episode, but you cannot celebrate your accomplishments enough and find a support group or mentor. Okay, success doesn't have to look the same for everyone and that's okay, you need to define success for yourself and how you can use your God given talents to show up in the world, don't compare yourself to others, It's only going to lead to frustration and unhappiness, set realistic goals for yourself and be persistent in reaching them, take time for yourself so you can maintain your energy levels and stay motivated and celebrate your accomplishments no matter how small they may seem, find that support group or that mentor who can keep you accountable and on track and just show up in the world and use your, use your gifts that you've been given to make this world a better place than it was the day before and these are just some of the ways that you can achieve success in your life, what works for one person, might not work for another, So just find what works best for you and as always I'm gonna be here cheering you on, that's it for this week's episode of Self care with Marissa raider, thank you for joining me and listen, if you enjoyed it and thank your BFF or any other woman, you know, might benefit from it, send them a link, share this episode or screenshot it and share it on instagram and tag me at marisa dot raider and hey, if you haven't already come hang out with me on the gram, where I share all things building a life you truly love in order to help you be the best version of yourself Until next week, I will be here cheering you on.