Welcome to the Self care with Marissa Radar podcast. I'm your host, Marissa and I am a certified life coach and self care expert. I'm making it my mission to help busy women build a self care centered lifestyle because self care is so much more than just pampering yourself. Society leads us to believe that basic rights like taking a warm bath or having our hair done is self care. But I'm here to change that narrative. I'm going to teach you how I went from overwhelmed, stressed to the max and burned out on life to thriving and loving the life I'm building and it all started with making a commitment to myself. So what do you say? Are you ready to commit to your own personal development journey? Let me lead you to the path of happiness and contentment. That's right. The one that leads you to a life you truly love. Let's get started. Welcome back to another windy episode of self care with Marissa raider. The wind is literally blowing at a constant 28 MPH today and it is so loud in here.

I apologize if it's creating any background noise but today I really want to know if you have ever felt lost and unsure of how to get your life back on track in this episode, I'm going to show you how To reset your life with one very simple thing Hey there, Marissa here and if you are like me, you've been through a lot of ups and downs in your life. It can be really tough to find your way back to happiness and joy when you feel like you're stuck in a rut, but I found that there's one simple thing that can help you reset your life and start fresh in this episode. I'm going to share with you what that is so that you can use it to do the same. So what is this simple thing? Well, I feel like I need to preface it this conversation with the fact that yes, it's simple, but it might not be easy, and when I say it, you're going to be like, really, that's your that's your amazing thing, but I want to tell you a little background story before I actually share with you what this one simple thing is.

A few years ago I had been diligently working on becoming my best self, I wanted to share my gifts with the world in a way that required me to show up for myself, for my family, for the people that I was working with. I just left my job as being a full time teacher, I was just kind of in that place where it was the best decision that I ever made, The easiest decision I'd ever made, the hardest decision at the same time. But I found myself in a place shortly after just feeling kind of lost and confused, I knew where I wanted to go with my life with my career as a business person, but I wasn't quite sure how to get there. I was just in a, in a place of limbo for a lack of a better way of describing it and the life coach that I had originally been working with a few years prior was doing a women's retreat and I was like you know what, that is exactly what I need right now.

I need to be able to remove myself from my daily life, not permanently, but for a few days just to really be able to focus on me and what I needed to do. We did not have any contact with the outside world. We gave up our cell phones when we got there we were in the beautiful black hills of south Dakota which is one of my absolute favorite places to be and it was four days of just being me, I didn't have to worry about breaking up a fight between my kids or refereeing an argument. I did not have to worry about all of the duties that a mom and business owner and wife have to do every day. And yes, I am grateful beyond grateful for the life and the family that I have and the, the life that we've built together but I was at a place where I just needed a few days to rest, do some deep diving into where I needed to be.

I needed to have some silence. I needed to be able to cut out the noise so that I could focus on coming back a even stronger and better, more patient person for my life, my everyday life and so that is the one simple thing I told you. It would not be easy. And we often make a lot of excuses why we cannot do something like that. It's expensive. I don't have the time, there's nobody to watch my kids. My Family needs me. I can't possibly leave them for two days but I want to tell you that you can, that is just fear talking. That is literally just fear keeping you stuck where you are in that proverbial rut that you are in. It wants it to get deeper and deeper because that is where you feel safe and comfortable. You may not feel joy and happiness there, but you feel comfortable.

You know what to expect take some time just for you and I don't mean just go get your nails done or have somebody watch your kids for a couple hours. That is not enough time. You need to get a hotel room. Even if it's in the same town that you live in or the neighboring bigger city, whatever that looks like for you Spending two nights away from your family, they will survive. They will be okay. It'll take some planning and some coordinating. Trust me, I've left my husband during harvest and I've left my husband during planting season to do this multiple times and he makes it work because he understands that that is something that I need to do and that it's okay for me to take that time for myself. Some may call it selfish, it might be, but I use that time to be silent and listen for what is going to be coming in the next stages of my life. Where do I need to go?

What direction do I need to be going and I can't do that. If I don't cut the noise, my personality does not allow left for me. I have to be able to cut the noise. So if you're anything like me, it's okay. I'm giving you permission right now to do the hard work of figuring out how to make this happen. But when you are literally feeling just stuck and you cannot seem to get past it. Take two days, two nights away from your family from everything. Put your phone in airplane mode and just be do some yoga, do some meditating, do activities that you like to do that. You don't make time for. Maybe you used to be a big runner and you haven't done that in awhile. Go somewhere where they have awesome running trails. Maybe you like to hike, maybe you'd like to be in nature. Maybe you just literally want to sit in a hotel spa, whatever it is that you need to be able to walk away from your daily life for just two days, three days, four days it's okay.

You are allowed to do that. And like I said, it may feel selfish and it very well might be selfish. But if you're to the point where you are struggling to function in your everyday life and you're just simply going through the motions, stop and allow yourself that rest and that rejuvenation. It will seriously make a world of difference for you. I Have my next one planned, I am leaving my family for four days next month in May, I am just going, I have, I have a hard time being by myself. So I've done retreats with other women and I am doing this on my own. I'm going to my favorite place. It's a five hour drive driving there by myself, which is scary for me. I am staying in a cabin by myself. I am going to go out to eat by myself. I am going to prove to myself that I can do these things that scare me that give me a little anxiety that I know are just my brain telling me to stay safe.

There's nothing unsafe about what I'm doing. But I am pushing myself outside of my comfort zone to go ahead and spend three nights away from my family to just be I'm going to get some work done. I'm gonna work on some huge projects that I have coming up which is super exciting. But I am going to give myself the space to not have to worry about anything else because I know that between my mom and my husband, they've got my kids covered, they're even gonna do Pop Patrol live with them. There are Saints. I seriously will not have to worry about them while I'm gone because I have to be able to trust the people in my life to do all the things that I do on a daily basis when I'm gone and that's okay. It is simply okay. So if you're feeling lost and you don't know how to get your life back on track, just remember there's always hope and the best way to find that hope is to reset your life with some time to yourself.

I hope this episode has helped you see that it's possible to create a new beginning for yourself. No matter what challenges you're facing. If you liked this episode, please leave me a review and let me know what else you'd like me to talk about in the upcoming episodes and until next time I'm gonna be here, cheering you on. That's it for this week's episode of Self care with Marissa raider. Thank you for joining me and listen. If you enjoyed it and thank your BFF or any other woman, you know, might benefit from it, send them a link, share this episode or screenshot it and share it on instagram and tag me at marisa dot raider and Hey, if you haven't already come hang out with me on the ground where I share all things building life you truly love in order to help you be the best version of yourself. Until next week, I will be here cheering you on.