Welcome to the Self care with Marissa Radar podcast. I'm your host, Marissa and I am a certified life coach and self care expert. I'm making it my mission to help busy women build a self care centered lifestyle because self care is so much more than just pampering yourself. Society leads us to believe that basic rights like taking a warm bath or having our hair done is self care. But I'm here to change that narrative. I'm going to teach you how I went from overwhelmed, stressed to the max and burned out on life to thriving and loving the life I'm building. And it all started with making a commitment to myself. So what do you say? Are you ready to commit to your own personal development journey? Let me lead you to the path of happiness and contentment. That's right. The one that leads you to a life you truly love. Let's get started. Hey, it's me, Marissa today I'm going to talk about something that we all go through at some point in our lives and that is not feeling like ourselves.

So many of us feel like we're not ourselves sometimes for one reason or another, it could be because of a tough day at work, stress from school or problems at home. But what can you do when you're not feeling like yourself in this episode, I'm going to share with you my top tips on how to cope and find your way back to being your normal self again. All right, Here we go, we're gonna dive right in with this quick wins episode. The first thing is is that you need to sit down and identify what it actually means to be yourself. When do you feel most like yourself? What are you doing? What activities are you doing? What are your relationships like what is work like? Just sit down and identify what it actually means to be you yourself. What feels quote unquote normal for you. The second step is that make sure you're taking time for those things, even if it's just a minimal amount of time, be sure that you are spending time individually with your kids or taking time with your spouse or your significant other.

Maybe you are staying late at work every night the last few weeks and that needs to stop or you at least need to designate certain nights that you will stay late in certain nights that you will go home on time. It is okay to take time even when you're busy and when you're overwhelmed the next step, meditate or pray about it literally just sit in your thoughts what is causing you to feel this way, once you've identified it, pray about it and literally learn to just sit in that silence and in that thinking and cut out the excess external noise. My 4th tip is to let go of toxic people in situations, give it away, give it up to God do whatever but let go of them. I know some people you can't completely cut out from your lives or it kind of goes in cycles and it's a little bit more toxic at this point. But then things get better and learn to let go of that though.

If you can identify that you are in a toxic relationship with someone, whether it be a coworker, a family member, a friendship, maybe there's just a situation right now that's feeling really toxic for you. Just stop re evaluate it, figure out how you can resolve it as quickly as possible and move on. I will be doing a full on episode all about this coming up here in the next month. So be sure to stick around for that. But I'm not going to dive too much into it right now. But just know that it's okay to let go of anything that feels toxic to you in your current situation. My next step that I always take is a tech detox, whether that's computer, social media, phone usage. Yesterday I literally did not touch my phone for probably eight or nine hours and it was glorious. I was present with family was able to just be in the moment.

So taking a full tech deep talks whether that's a good portion of your day, maybe you're going to set more strict hours that you're on your devices, whatever that is. You take a week off. Maybe there's a specific app on your phone and instagram and facebook a Snapchat. I've hidden Snapchat on my phone. I had to apologize to my family over the weekend. Sorry, I'm just catching up on all the snapchats because I don't see the notifications anymore. I literally only go into the app when I think about it. It's not on my home screen anymore and it's gone. It just, I don't need to be tempted by social media that isn't propelling my business forward at this point. And so I've made that decision that I still want to be able to catch up with my nieces and my nephews on there. But it's going to be when I designate the time For it. Step # six here, step outside of your comfort zone. You might not be feeling yourself anymore because you're feeling just kind of stuck in the day to day life, that just, it's like a hamster wheel you get on it and you just don't know how to get off.

So taking some steps to get outside your comfort zone as minimal or small as they may be, they don't need to be huge things you don't need to go skydiving or something in order to get out of your comfort zone, but just take little steps to get out of that rut that you may feel like you are In number seven kind of pairs with number three which was meditate and pray about it, but take some time to be alone last week's episode was about going on a mommy only trip and how beneficial that can be for your mental, your physical well being. Just being able to sit and process and only worry about just what you need to worry about in that moment is absolutely the most freeing thing. So take some time to just be alone and a lot of moms or business owners, women in general are like, yeah, well I went and got a massage or I just had my nails done or I'm getting my hair done next week and that's my me time.

That's great. That's super great. But I'm talking like intentional time alone where you were the only person so you can literally cut out all of the external noise And my last tip number eight here rest and don't force it. If you are not feeling yourself, that's just part of life. Life ebbs and flows and it's up and it's down, that's just the natural progression of how life goes. And if you find yourself just not feeling good, it's ok to rest and not force it. Now. I'm I'm that person where I hate to give that advice and not follow it up with the fact that don't become lazy and complacent either in your resting. But if your body is telling you that you just need to stop and slow down, listen to it.

There's a reason why and whether that be a medical reason, a stress reason overwhelmed. You've been going nonstop for weeks. Whatever that reason is, it's all a contributing factor to you not feeling yourself. So take a step back, really analyze what it means to be yourself, how you can get back to their or if you need to move forward to continue feeling like yourself, we all go through these tough times. It's important to have coping mechanisms in place so that you can find your way back. These tips are a great starting point, but they're not exhaustive. So I would love for you to tell me what you do when you don't feel like yourself, you can leave me a review, reach out to me on instagram at life coach underscore Marissa and if you like this episode, be sure to head to itunes or your favorite podcast app and and let me know, let other people know that's how this podcast grows and that our community grows is by you guys sharing the good word and I appreciate you so much for listening to this episode and I am going to be here until next episode, cheering you on.

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