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Ep. 58 What to do when others don't take you seriously...

by Marissa Rehder
May 12th 2022
You know what it's like when people just don't take your business seriously. They brush off your ideas as if they're not worth anything. It can be really frustrating, but don't worry, in this episode ... More
Hey, so you're a business owner and you've put your heart and soul into it, but sometimes you get this feeling like people just don't take you seriously, don't worry, that's, that happens to all of us and in this episode I'm going to share with you what to do when people don't take your business seriously and give you some tips on how to change not only their perception but your own, you're listening to the Marissa raider shell. I'm a mama of three farm wife and creative entrepreneur who thrives on helping dreamers endures make the most of their God given talents. You can consider me your newest BFF who will be in there to cheer you on and give you practical tools to use in your business and your life all while empowering you in your faith, providing you with hard truths and motivation to get you chasing your dreams. I am bringing you actionable tips to uplevel your life and business as a busy mom and believer, I'll share laughs and encouragement with you as you chase after your God given dreams, I believe that you've been given this one life and purpose for you to live out and if you're ready to be the rockstar you're meant to be then you're in the right place.

Let's get started. Hey there, welcome back to another episode of the Marissa Raiders show. I am so excited to have you listening today, I have been struggling for the last over a week with my voice but we're here and I'm pushing through So I apologize if I don't sound like my normal self, but I want to share with you some really important things today about what you do when you started this business and it just seems like people don't really take you seriously. So you know what that's like right? They just kind of brush off your ideas like they're maybe not worth anything or they just don't see the vision that you have, it can be really frustrating but don't worry in this episode, I'm going to show you how to change their perception and make them see that your business is legit. And even if they don't, I'm gonna help you change your own perception because that's what really matters.

So let's dive in and get started. Okay. So the first tip that I have for you is to believe in yourself and in your business. I was recently just talking to a really good friend of mine and she was talking about how you know like when you take your kids in for their well baby checks or to the doctor or you know, you go in for your, your physical or something like that and they're like, so tell me you know what you do and her default was always like I stay at home even though she owns her own business and runs a successful business. Her default was always just be like, oh I'm just to stay at home. Mom. First off the word just in there, we use that way too often and second off you have to, you have to treat yourself and your business like you are worth other people's attention, so believing in what you're doing in your mission, all of those things are just super important for other people to see what you're doing and I always felt the need to like prove myself to other people like oh I'm doing this and I'm doing this and I'm doing this and I have this app that I'm developing and I have these clients and this is, you know, all the things, but really they're not going to understand all of those things, but if you take your business seriously and you're confident in telling people about, You know what you're doing that kind of 32nd elevator pitch that you have that right there is going to help them see that hey, this, this business is legit that she's doing, she is doing great things and that's a huge step right there, that's a huge win and what goes along with that is just staying positive.

Business can be lonely, it can be exhausting, especially if you're newer to business or you're in the process of scaling and taking it up a notch, staying positive and trying to cancel out that outside noise of what other people think and say and are doing is going to help you keep your sanity and actually lead you to more success than if you're spending your time and your effort and your brain capacity worrying about those other people and what they think of your business. Obviously you need to take into account some people's opinions, you know, your clients, your customers or things like that, but if they are just random people in your life that just don't seem to get the vision, don't exhaust yourself with it, Stay positive and just keep believing in you and what your mission is. The next thing that you can do is just educate yourself on what it takes to actually be a successful business owner. What are the things that successful people are doing and how can you emulate that in your life?

Because when you start showing up like that successful business owner, other people are going to see it too and they're going to recognize that you are making moves and that this thing that you're doing is legit, it is a real thing and that it matters and that it's worth their time and effort to understand what it is that you're actually doing my next tip is is one that I give for just about everything. But it's networking with other entrepreneurs, surrounding yourself with other people who may not necessarily have the same vision as you or the same business as you, but understand what it's like to be a new startup to be growing and scaling a business to be trying to juggle and wear all of the hats and get all of the things done. Those people having them in your corner is the number one thing that I absolutely suggest, it's exactly why my friend Brittany and I have started our meet up groups here in Northwest Iowa, we have some other big things coming in september, so keep your ears peeled for that, I can't wait to announce it, but for now find people that you can network with and if you don't have people or you don't know where to start in your own community, reach out to me, I will help you, I will help you find people that get you and understand you that are going to support you and cheer you on because that is, that is invaluable when it comes to building a business.

My next tip is to get professional help when you need it. When I could start telling people that I not necessarily had employees, but that I contract certain things out in my business, they took more interest, they started asking more questions about it, they understood that, wow, this is, this is a real thing, okay. She now needs help with it. What what else, what else is she doing? Why is she needing this help? What is taking up all of her time? How, how is she growing this? And so when you can outsource something to help, free up your time, eh, it's a, it helps you grow faster and scale faster, but it also gives the outside perspective that, hey, this, this is a real deal. And if you are not to the point yet where you need to hire out professional help, that's okay. This is more for you than it is for anybody else. But it seemed to have had this like lightbulb moment for the people in my life is like, wow, okay.

She's, she's serious about this and all right, we're here for it. Let's, let's see where this takes her. My next tip is to not give up. It's easy and especially when it's lonely and it's getting hard and usually what I found is that those hard places are like the storm before I don't even know what saying that is scratch that. We're not going to use that metaphor. It's like the dark before the dawn. Oh my gosh, you guys, this is like too much for my brain today. But it is one of those things where when things start to get difficult, that's usually because there is some positive change on the horizon. Like there's going to be a breakthrough coming. Um, I see it in my faith all the time in my business as a mom.

You know, when, as a teacher, even when I would work really, really hard with kids on something and they were pushing back, they were pushing back and it just seemed like there was no end in sight. And then all of a sudden they would get to this tipping point where it was like they just needed me to stand my ground one more time and help them with this one area one more time and then it was like it clicked and so when you get to those hard places that is not a place to give up, that is a place to keep pushing, it goes the same with your habits. If you've listened to me talk about habit building at all um that is it's your brain telling you like, okay this is my last ditch effort to prove that maybe this isn't a thing, maybe I shouldn't be putting my time and my effort into it, but if you can keep showing up and not giving up, your brain learns a to have grit in all areas of your life. But be it shows that you're serious about this and other people will see that too. The next thing is is to celebrate your successes and not in some like in your face way because we've all been there.

Well if you're anything like me, you've been there where you're like, I'll prove you wrong when somebody tells you or gives you the impression that maybe what you're doing isn't gonna work out, you're like hold this, watch me, I'm gonna do it and I'm gonna do it five times better than I would have if you wouldn't have given me that impression. Um But if you celebrate your successes than it teaches your brain that those are things to look forward to and it trains it, that there will be more where that comes from and to do more of whatever brought that success to you. And so celebrating your successes shows other people that there are things to celebrate in your business, that this is legit, that this is the real deal, but it really is just teaching yourself that there's more where that came from and that you just need to keep putting in the time and the effort and doing the things because the more you do it, the more your brain recognizes it and starts automatically doing those things for you and it takes less of that mental bandwidth.

It allows you to open up your your schedule and your brain to taking in new and different aspects of your business. Also. What goes along with the not giving up and celebrating your successes is just being patient. Success does not happen overnight. It seems like it does for some people, but guess what usually happens to those people, they don't know how to manage it because when things get tough, they give up Well, it must have just been short lived. What, what can you do? Be patient celebrate the tiny winds don't give up network with people that are going to that are going to keep you in the right frame of mind to keep growing and to keep pushing because you are going to be so more prepared for what's to come and to build a sustainable business with like a true solid foundation, if you're patient and you allow it to take time and you build it the right way versus some overnight success story.

The other thing here that goes along perfectly with this is to not compare yourself to others, You have no idea what is going on in the backgrounds of their life of their business. It may look like an overnight success story And maybe they've been working at this for 10 years and you just haven't seen it, you just never ever know. And so I hear this saying all the time, like don't compare your chapter one to somebody else's chapter seven, how do you know what chapter there on though? Like come on. But the key here is to look at what they're doing, what you are kind of envious about what they're doing and then figure out how to emulate it in your own business, in your own life. It's nothing to be jealous of or anything like that. Don't compare yourself, use it as a motivator if anything and cheer him on, because isn't that what you want other people to do for you? Isn't that the whole purpose of this entire episode is that you want people to take your business seriously and by being able to show up and cheer other people on who are doing the same things as you, that's what you want from others.

So don't compare yourself, show up, be yourself and just do you and if you see something that somebody else is doing and you're like dang, I love that, figure out how to implement it into your own life and into your own business in your own way, because that's another thing, is just being authentic, knowing your worth being, who you truly are inside your business is is something that it took a long time for me to do that, to like own my own, I didn't know who my target audience was or who I wanted to serve or how I wanted to serve them. Even the rebrand of this podcast is part of that, me coming into my own and just doing me and being me and doing my business exactly how I want to do it and not necessarily how coaches or gurus have instructed me to do it in the past because they've taught me a lot of things, I've learned a lot of things from a lot of amazing people, but there gets to be a point in time in your business where you have to just step up and rely on yourself and know that you have what it takes inside of you to grow your vision and your purpose, because God has put that on your heart for you and other people can help you lead to that and and to grow and scale and do all of Those things and I am 100% a promoter of joining masterminds of hiring coaches of doing all this, that's literally what I do for a job, So I'm not saying don't do those things, but you know your worth and know who you are and take, take as much time as you need to figure out how you're going to show up in the world and until you know, and can solidify that show up messy, that's the only way to do it.

That's the only way to find exactly what you are meant to do and who you were meant to do it with and and what audience you were meant to do it for because when I started out, I was working, making curriculum for teachers plot twist, I am no longer doing that, but what I knew all along was that I was capable of building something successful and I took each pivot in stride and just kept pushing forward and I didn't give up and I asked for help from others when I needed it and I kept educating myself on what it was going to take to be successful in the way that I wanted to and and that was, that was it, that was, that's how I've gotten to where I'm at right now, which is amazing and I know you can do it too, I do have one more bonus tip and um it's self care and then in my notes here, I put cough after it like you know, because my perspective on self care has really changed since I started talking about self care three or four years ago.

And for me, self care is not a bubble bath or having your nails done. Those are self indulgences. And I'm here for those 100% you guys, I get my hair done, I have Bi weekly massages, I have my nails done every 3-4 weeks, I get pedicures, I have my eyelashes done every two weeks. Yeah, I'm high maintenance, I get it. Those are self indulgences. That is not self care. I could still be happy, healthy and live a very productive life without any of those things. What self care is renewing your mind, your body, your soul, your heart healing the past, moving forward, developing that grit, Taking time to cut out that external noise, listening to your own intuition, taking care of your physical body, getting into routines, having habits, you know, doing the same things, not necessarily the exact same things, but having those routines in the morning and at night routines with your family, like we do friday night, movie night and if it doesn't happen on friday night, we'll do it saturday or sunday that week.

Some weeks, it may not happen at all, but that is a routine that we really do try to stick by because that is intentional time that we, we make for each other and for our kids self care routines and work routines, all of these things that is true self care showing up for yourself even when you don't want to because you know that it is going to better your life and your situation and your business and your family. That's self care. And sometimes that might look like taking a Workstation or a staycation and booking a hotel room for two nights or whatever it is. That's okay, that's true self care. That is giving your time space too to grow as an individual, but to continue growing as a wife and as a mom and then all those other capacities that you feel for other people and knowing your priorities. My V.

I. P. Is what I've started to call it, you know, knowing your values, your intention and your priorities, that's all part of self care. And so I'm just gonna like give a shameless plug here for my 90 day life Rewrite program because we dive into all of that extensively in it. Um it's a group coaching program, so you get to network with other women and other business owners, we have group coaching calls monthly, you get boxer access which is like texting me and and I will coach you through all of these things. It's very easily laid out, it's just, it really is my pride and joy. So if you have been listening to this episode and you're like dang it. Yes this all of this in my life And how do I get it? I will teach you step by step how to get it. So I really do hope that these 10 tips are gonna help you change others perceptions of your business, so they're not miracle workers though and and the biggest suggestion I have for when other people don't take your business seriously is to ask yourself, how seriously are you taking your business?

Are you presenting it in a way that they have no, no other way, but to take it seriously or are you kind of in that in between state where you're like, yeah, I run a business, but you know, it's no big deal, it is a big deal and you need to start owning it, it takes time and effort to build a successful business, so do not give up if things don't happen overnight, be positive, stay focused on your goals and educate yourself on what it takes to really be that successful entrepreneur. Most importantly, believe in yourself when you have that inner confidence, others will start to take notice. If you're ready to get started, reach out to me, I want to, I want to be, I want to coach you through this, this is this is what gets me out of bed every morning, is being able to work with women, just like you in this capacity, so let's have on a call together, I will put the link in the show notes and yeah, I cannot wait to chat with you more about your goals and your dreams and and where you see yourself going.

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