do you ever feel like you're stuck in a rut and can't seem to get out in this episode, I'm going to talk about how fomo or the fear of missing out is keeping you from reaching your goals Hey there, marissa here and if you're anything like me, you know that the fear of missing out can be really debilitating at times, it can keep us from doing things we want to do or taking steps towards our goals and in this episode I am going to be talking all about why Fomo exists and how we can overcome it and finally achieve our dreams. You're listening to the marisa raider Shell, I'm a mom of three farm wife and creative entrepreneur who thrives on helping dreamers endures make the most of their God given talents, You can consider me your newest BFF who will be in there to cheer you on and give you practical tools to use in your business and your life all while empowering you in your faith, providing you with hard truths and motivation to get you chasing your dreams, I am bringing you actionable tips to uplevel your life and business as a busy mom and believer, I'll share laughs and encouragement with you as you chase after your God given dreams, I believe that you've been given this one life and purpose for you to live out and if you're ready to be the rock star, you're meant to be, then you're in the right place, let's get started, it's no secret, that fear can be a powerful motivator.

Fear of missing out or fomo is also a strong emotion that can impact our decision making and keep us from reaching our goals, whether we're afraid to fail or we feel like we're not good enough, como can hold us back from taking risks and pursuing our dreams while it's natural to feel some level of anxiety about change, it's important to recognize when fomo is impacting your life in a negative way. When you're too scared to take chances, you miss out on opportunities for growth and success. If you find yourself being held back by this fear, remember that you are strong enough to overcome it, just trust your gut, take a deep breath and go after whatever it is you want because you are going to be glad that you did como is a real thing, a very real thing and it can make you feel like you're missing out on something. If you don't do what everyone else is doing, we don't want to be left behind and that's what fomo is all about. It can drive us to do things we wouldn't normally do, it can make us spend money, we don't have, it can make us stay up late when we should be sleeping, it can make us do things that are risky and it can make us feel bad about ourselves.

So how do we deal with fomo first off, you need to be able to recognize when it's present, 2nd, you need to understand that this is a normal feeling and that everybody feels this way sometimes third you need to find a healthy way to cope with it. And fourth you need to remember that you're not alone, there are others who feel the same way and we're all in this together. So let's start off by talking about how it shows up in our life and how that impacts us. So at its best social media keeps us connected to our friends and family all over the world. We can share our news, our thoughts, our lives with just a few clicks but at its worst social media can be a breeding ground for comparison and envy when we are constantly bombarded with images of people's perfect lives, it's easy to fall into the trap of comparison. Itis, yep, I said it or in other words the habit of comparing yourself to others.

This alone can lead to feelings of inadequacy, frustration and even depression. So how do you break free from this comparison trap? Well, you need to remember that everyone is putting their best foot forward on social media, it is a highlight reel and there are a few people who are willing to be vulnerable and air their dirty laundry per se on social media, but you have to remember that most of that is attention behavior and so what they're doing is they are getting their validation from posting these things on social media. Does that mean we need to get rid of social media altogether? No, because there are definite benefits, especially if you're trying to run a business with it. But My # one tip for this is if you find yourself just down on your own life and how you feel about yourself after you see a specific person or um post about specific things, get it off your news feed, there's no need for it.

You do not need it there. So cut it out and follow, do whatever on friend, whatever you need to do. But get it off your feed. There's no shame in that game. If it doesn't make you feel good, get rid of it. And then my other suggestion is to reach out to your families and friends and just let them know you appreciate them, build genuine connections with the people who are most important to you and understand that if they aren't on your priorities list, then there's no need to compare your life to them. Because everybody's walk of life is different. Everybody's journey is different. And just because somebody appears to be in a place that you want to be, it may not actually be that place behind closed doors. So genuine relationships, get rid of all of the things that trigger you on your news feeds and just remember that what you're seeing is most likely someone else's highlight real alright.

The next thing that film can cause you to do is make decisions based on what other people will think of you rather than what's actually best for you? It's the fear that you're going to be missing out on an opportunity or an experience and it can lead you to do things that you don't really want to do. For example, you might go to a party even though you're tired and you know that you have something important the next day or you spend money on something that you don't really need just because it will look good or you think it looks fun when somebody else is using it just because you don't want to be left out. It can be a real problem because these decisions are based on other people's expectations rather than meeting your own needs and wants. You need to learn to trust your own instincts and not let fomo control your life otherwise you're gonna end up doing things that you don't really want to do and missing out on the things that truly matter to you. Like that priorities list and your goals. Another thing that fomo can do is keep you from taking risks and pursuing your dreams.

It might not be easy, but it's worth it when you're afraid of missing out, you're usually afraid of two things, failure and success. We're afraid of failing because we don't want to look like idiots and we're afraid of succeeding because we don't want to get our hopes up only to be disappointed. But what if you could view failure and success as two sides of the same coin as something that happens to everyone, not just you, if you can learn to embrace the uncertainty and open yourself up to new experiences, new people, new opportunities, you can learn to take risks and see them as stepping stones instead of obstacles. And who knows, maybe just maybe you will find that life that you've been dreaming of just waiting for you on the other side of your fears. So now we see how it can show up in our lives. But what's the best way to overcome fomo?

Just because it's common does not mean that fomo is harmless. In fact this fear can actually lead to all sorts of negative consequences from envy and jealousy to depression and anxiety. So what can you do to overcome fomo? The best approach is to focus on your own journey and not worry about what other people are doing easier said than done. This goes back to getting rid of the people off of your feed that no longer serve you and how you want to feel and the kind of life that you want to live, you need to acknowledge your feelings of envy and jealousy Mel Robbins tells her audience all the time that when you feel that envy or you feel that jealousy use it as a motivating factor because there is some part of you that wants that in your life and so maybe that's a goal that you should have and you didn't even realize that you wanted it to be a goal. So when you come down to setting your goals based off of your fomo, you need to think, am I doing this just because someone else has it?

Or do I truly, truly want this in my life? Because if that's the case, that's when you need to use fomo to your advantage by focusing on your own life and your own journey, you can start to let go of the comparisons and judgment that fuel your fomo and when you do that, you'll find that you are in a much happier and more fulfilled place. Everyone knows the feeling of regret that comes from watching other people achieve something that you deeply desire. You think maybe I should have gone to that networking event, maybe I should have taken that online course, Maybe I should have applied to that graduate program. That little voice inside your head is known as fomo. It just that's what that little tiny voice is telling you and it can be such a powerful force and leading you to make decisions that you regret later on. But here's the thing when you finally reach your goals and you finally accomplished what you set out to do, the exhilaration and satisfaction that you feel is worth, all of the moments of doubt and insecurity.

It's worth all of the times that you had to say no in order to focus on your business, it's worth all of the sacrifices that you make in order to achieve your dreams. So the next time that you're feeling that little twinge of fomo remind yourself that it's only temporary. The rewards of reaching your goals are way more worth it. So just to recap, how do you overcome fomo? You set your goals, you stay the course. You focus on your own journey. You use that fomo to make sure that your goals are actually aligned with the type of life that you want to live and you focus on those dreams. You need to remind yourself that the rewards of reaching those dreams and chasing after them and hitting those goals are going to be way more worth it than just keeping up with all of the friends on your friends list. So if you see other business owners doing something that you know you're capable of doesn't mean you need to try it.

I'm guilty of that just because your friend on facebook goes on vacation somewhere and it looks gorgeous. Doesn't mean that you need to add it to your bucket list? You need to get in touch with your inner most desires. What are your values? What are your priorities? And how do you want to show up in your life and then take action based on that. So if you're being held back by the fear of missing out. You're not alone. It's a powerful emotion that will keep you from reaching your goals unless you find a way to overcome it and you do that by staying the course, sticking to your own journey and not worrying about what other people are doing. So acknowledge it and then take action anyway. When you reach your goals, you're gonna feel so much better than if you would let you control your life. So if you're ready to take action and quit allowing fear to guide your decisions, I actually invite you to check out my jumpstart program.

It is a new four week program. You get 41 on one coaching calls with me 45 minutes long. It's tailored to your schedule to your needs and I will help you map out what it is that you really want and what you really need right now. And I will keep you on track to stay focused on those things for the next four weeks of your life, I have three spots open right now. So check out the link in the show notes. If you are interested, if you want to book a call before jumping into something like the jumpstart program. I also have link that in the show notes, but I am here for you. I want to help you overcome all of the obstacles that are standing in your way of creating your dreams and chasing those dreams and actually achieving them. So go ahead check out the links in the show notes and until next time I am going to be here doing what I always do, which is cheering you on.

Thanks so much for joining me for this episode of the First operator show. If you enjoyed it, share it with your bestie, head on over, leave it a review. Make sure you subscribe to the show so that you do not miss any future episodes and come find me on instagram at life coach underscore Marissa I'd be so excited to connect with you on there and we will see you in the next episode. What